While checking my rarely used email address, I discovered I am signed up for Sarah Titus' newsletter (IDK how, did I download a freebie SVG?) and I got THE ENGAGEMENT ANNOUNCEMENT. It linked me to some older posts with these gems.

On arguing (from mid 2021):

*”Kyle and I are really amazing in that we hardly EVER argue (it’s one of the things I really appreciate about him; he’s always so quick to listen and adapt and truly takes my feelings into high consideration. He listens to everything I say (and remembers it). He’s such a loving, doting best friend and I’m the same way with him. It’s truly a blessing to have a relationship like that, because I’ve never HAD that kind of relationship before where both people just respect and love each other and are kind and listen. It’s so amazing to be part of), however, I know that right now, Kyle has something on one of his social media accounts that is of another religion. 

We are not of this other religion. We do not agree with their religion theology. This religion is not Biblical and him having it on his profile, even in an innocent way (simply liking it), is SIN. It’s wrong. It offends me GREATLY! 

While there are many things I can and o let go, I absolutely just CANNOT let THIS point go. 

Having something of a false religion that we “like” publicly is not glorifying to God. It’s not about ME at all. And I’ve asked him to remove it; years go by and he still refuses to remove it. 

No problem. But I WILL NOT date him, I will not enter into a relationship with him, I will NOT connect our names together online publicly, UNTIL it’s removed. 

Why? 

Not for my own sake, but for God’s. You guys are watching. Other people are watching and I don’t want ANY mistake about what religion I AM. I am NOT Mormon. I don’t agree with Mormon. It doesn’t line up Biblically and I don’t want to be married (or in a relationship) with someone who is having a false religion thing on their stuff.

What is the big deal to remove it? I honestly don’t know. Maybe he thinks he will get caught if he removes it? No problem. But it’s a hill for me to die on and I refuse to enter into a relationship with him until it’s gone. Period. 

It’s not a manipulation tactic. It’s not anything evil. I’m fighting FOR God. This is God’s glory and it must be made with the utmost respect. I am a public figure. I can’t have Satan get in there and use that against me, making people think I am a different religion when I am not. I can’t allow that to happen. It’s all for God’s glory, not my own you see. 

This IS a hill to die on for me. 

So when you come across a hill to die on, absolutely fight for it.In a respectful way. Don’t manipulate, don’t argue, but make it well known to him how you feel and where you stand. 

At the same time you’re making your feelings known, you don’t want to become a nag; that would be sin too. So what is a practical way to ask him, but NOT nag him about this situation you’re willing to die for?

A good rule of thumb is to bring it to his attention once/month. Don’t bring it up daily or weekly. But absolutely, once a month, bring it up until it changes. You don’t HAVE to bring it up even that often. 

In the situation with me and Kyle, this has been ongoing for a few years and I’ve brought it up maybe 6-9 times-ish. It’s not a monthly thing, but it is something that I WILL ABSOLUTELY continue to tell him. Again, it’s just something worth me dying for. What we individually do, is a reflection of the other person. If he does something bad, it looks bad on ME and if I do something bad, it looks bad on HIM."*

On "Keeping Dating pure" (also mid 2021):

*”Now please understand, Kyle and my view on dating will be different from a lot of people’s and that’s okay. Just be sure to talk about it thoroughly with your guy in order that you two remain pure. 

For Kyle and I, we believe in courting. We want our relationship to not be “dating” but courting instead. I told him when I first met him that I wanted to be friends with a guy for 1 year FIRST, before dating because I wanted to really know that the person is saved (a lot of people fake Christianity) and I want to make sure it’s a relationship of God. 

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Kyle is an incredibly honorable and pure man, as I am an honorable and pure woman (neither of us have ever been physically intimate outside of marriage). It is my highest desire to keep him pure until marriage. I would never want to defraud him or tempt him purposely in this way."*

And lastly, a commenter from the above post asked: ”On the subject of marriage. Have you and Kyle finally tied the knot? Disagreements with the husband are the worst! But there is grace for the both of us."

Her reply: ”Not as of this point. God is taking care of the situation in a slow way to bring us together and that’s just fine. 🙂 Can’t wait until it finally happens but Kyle and I rarely fight, which is amazing. He’s a GREAT listener and truly cares about what I say and think. There’s a ton of respect there for both of us."

SO. MUCH. TO. UNPACK. HERE.