When I was a kid, my dad always went to some sort of yearly “men’s conference”. From what I can remember, they had no official name other than “men’s conference”.

When I was about 20, he came home from one of these meetings and handed me a CD/audiobook that apparently contained everything I needed to know about my wedding night.

I maybe had one foot out at this point and didn’t think I’d be married in the next few year, so I sort of sighed and thanked him the best that I could and packed it away. I haven’t seen it since, in part because I don’t really go home much anymore.

We were IFB but also didn’t fangirl, so we were never “official” IFB/IBLP…so this makes it nearly impossible for me to track down any of the literature that I was raised with. For Sunday School we used David C Cook, for devotionals we used feasite.org; I can’t track down the teen Bible study materials we used…

This was literally the only “sex talk” I had ever gotten from either of my parents, with the exception of the time I asked my mom what a virgin was, and she just responded that it was a woman who saved themselves for marriage to their husbands.

I have no idea what happened to this CD my dad gave me, and now that I’m an atheist/working through things in therapy, I’m genuinely interested in what information it may have contained so I can better understand the indoctrination I received.

I’m also honestly curious what type of “men’s conference” he had attended. At some point after I had left the church, there was also a women’s conference. The ladies didn’t know I had left the church, but I was “away” at college (side note: I dropped out of Jesus college) so I sorta got a free pass on attending…