Good day to you, have been a lurker for some time and while my understanding is quite limited on the fascist kink itself, how do people differentiate between someone genuinely into roleplaying it out compared to someone who's genuinely after such a lifestyle?

The question just raised up in my mind as there were a few posters which had what I assumed was them having a hyperinflated fantasy of stories but almost sounded way too real like they were living it out or wanting to have that lifestyle (not just in bed but out of it). Some of which I can't wrap my head around as it goes against aspects of consent & autonomy that had been taught to me as someone in the kink lifestyle.

I mainly desire to hear your thoughts and understand what it is about the kink that draws people in as well as why there are those who actively seek it out blurring fantasy and reality.