That’s ok. It’s a kink after all, it’s in the name. We have all these smooth and straight principles and then OOP—there’s a kink in the line. Something that’s just there for whatever reason. Could be a developmental thing that happened when you were growing up, whether that was a fairly innocent correlation and now you get off to shoes, or something like this where— you get off to an intense and dominant ideology that reduces people to objects and strips them of their humanity.

There are a handful of reasons why this appeals to you, but the thing to focus on is that it’s only a facet of who you are and not who you are in your entirety. We have lots of aspects to us that are either odd, difficult, or impossible to reconcile. After all, how many of you enjoy being called a filthy slut right after being called a good girl? Weird, right?

Well no, it’s not. Because humans are weird. We’re all just trying to iron ourselves out and in the meantime we’re going to be bumping into these things we think are inconsistent within ourselves. Feminists who fantasize about rape, minorities fantasizing about racism, transgenders who fantasize about being misgendered and then converted to their cis identity. Things that don’t make a ton of sense on the surface and require time to process and figure out.

Carl Jung referred to this part of ourselves as The Shadow. A subconscious part of who we are that is hard to look at.

The important thing is that you’re here embracing it and exploring it instead of repressing and ignoring it. That denial of ourselves leads to lies and delusion we use to cover it up. We don’t want to acknowledge that part of ourselves and so we hide it in various ways, but not you. You’re facing that side of yourself and that needs to be commended.

Ultimately what you need to know is that you’re fine. You’re more than likely a good person exploring a human aspect of who you are. A dark part that you’re capable of, but not something that is who you are. Remember: All of this is just a facet of you rather than you in your entirety.

We’re all having fun here, so just remember this concept as you continue exploring this facet of your desires. Remember that there are plenty of things we enjoy in the moment when things are hot, or things that even get us in the mood, but don’t exist outside of our sexuality. This is only a single part of who you are, not everything you are.

Whether you’re an “oppressor” who doesn’t actually hold fascist beliefs but is fine pretending or exaggerating beliefs you have into fascist caricatures, or “victims” who lead strong and meaningful lives but come here to enjoy the complete and total dominance of an evil and powerful ideology, you’re both doing fine.

Hopefully this will be part of your aftercare when you talk with others on here. Hopefully your partner reminds you of this after you’re done talking. If not just remember this and internalize it or even save this post and come back to it when you aren’t getting it from your partner.

This is also an invitation—as most of my posts are—to discuss it. If you need to explore and figure out why you like it, there’s usually a good handful of reasons why and if you feel like reaching out, you’ll be in a judgement free zone as always to explore and talk about it.

Keep having fun and remember this is all just a kink