Im 28 and recovering from a severe burnout for nearly four years now. Due to this I don't have many contacts now. I also don't have the energy for a romantic relationship now. Yet out of boredom I looked on dating sites and met a few people, and told them that I couldn't afford a real relationship right now, but could be open to just hanging out as friends or having a fwb situation.

So I met this girl half a year ago, and since then we've been texting each other a lot daily. At morning, during the day, in the evenings. Just having lots of fun and also deep conversations. We did talk about what we want with our contact, and because she also didn't have the intention on starting a relationship (or having sex, she preferred to stay celibate for some time because of a trauma and said that she would develop feelings for someone she would have sex with, and she didn't want that now) we decided that eventually having sex was totally off the table.

A month ago we started to meet in person, and we felt a really good connection between the two of us. She suggested that because both of us felt touch starved because of our personal situations, it would be nice to have some "hugging sessions". I agreed; I felt really comfortable around her and because of my long recovery process missed getting intimate in whatever way

Last week I went to her place and we cuddled for an hour or so on her sleeping couch. It was really nice.

This week I found myself developing some feelings for her, something that I at first tried to deny. I was confused because of this, and just yesterday I heard that she had kissed someone who she had recently met.

I was surprised, because she made it very clear that she wasn't ready to kiss anyone yet and wanted to remain celibate. Although I knew she was struggling with this decision, I didn't see this coming. The guy wanted to have sex, but she didn't want to just yet.

We're both confused now. We had this beautiful, funny and sweet friendship, and in one week time I developed feelings for her and she got passionate with someone else.

We talked about this, and she asked if the two relationships could co-exist: our friendly, homely, calm and kind relationship and their potential passionate sexual one. I told her I couldn't say anything about this just yet; if I would have a hard time with my own feelings, it might not be the best idea. She really wanted to keep our relationship like it was, and I totally agree with her. Our connection is wonderful. Yet I think I might have a hard time liking her and at the same time knowing that she's having sex with another.

So I'm confused now. I want to go back to just being friends with her, and try to accept that she's getting passionate with someone else. And I just feel sad today. It's not that I'm madly in love with her, but I feel that something is developing in me.

I decided to stop the cuddling sessions, because it kinda blurred the boundaries between friendly and romantic for me. And she wanted to help me by not talking about the other guy with me, which I liked.

Still I feel a bit uneasy. What do you guys think about this? Do you have any advice for me in this situation? Or can you help getting my mind clear about this? Thanks in advance!!