There's always some situation that creates absolute agony that the friend thinks nothing of because they don't see you that way. What are some of the worst ones in the community? And how did you react to it or try to handle the situation?

I will start with this. 10 years ago I had a female coworker who I was giving regular rides to our job because she had no car and lived around the corner from me. I really enjoyed her company, she was fun, quirky and basically fit all the manic-pixie-dream-girl cliches in real life. Naturally I fell in love except she was not interested in that. She did still get very attached to me as a friend. And I got attached to having her in my car to keep me company. Well, she ditches her existing bf who was in the picture before I was giving her rides. If I had any chance it would be then. But instead, she starts dating another guy at work. So now it's someone that I know which makes it hurt more. But that's all setup.

This guy's name is Gio. And Gio starts staying over her place. And he doesn't have a car either. So then I'm asked to pick her up and him together. Well, sometimes they sit in the backseat together instead of her getting into the passenger's side. And sometimes when they do this, they kiss and flirt and cuddle. And I can see all this going on in my rearview mirror as I'm driving. Remember, this is a brand new thing that's happening with her and a mutual coworker and I just have to keep being the good driver.

Well my natural response to this is to start speeding down the highway like a demon and driving more recklessly. Eventually she starts asking "Why are you driving like a psycho?" I don't answer. She gets distressed and suddenly they aren't cuddling anymore. This happens a few separate times until I can spend some time with her alone at her apartment and explain how much the situation is hurting me. She understands and feels bad and gives me a hug and that stops after that. But man what a nightmare it was to begin with.

Some time after that she moved far away to Arizona. I loved her to death and I wish her all the best but I'm glad she left my life so I could get my own peace of mind back and put my thoughts elsewhere.