Backstory we've been bffs since junior college 16 years. I left for CA for uni in NY and it broke his ❤️. I've been back 10 years and for nearly 3 years we kind of been on hiatus. We've reconnected about 9 months ago picked right back up where we left and are even closer now. This past weekend he tells me he's dead set on joining the airforce next year. Now it's only natural these feelings i have come up right? However we're in our mid 30s my rationale is like bro what sense does it make to join now. I get his rationale he's been at a position for 8 years and doesn't see a ray of sunshine insight. I say pivot into something else. I know he has the potential to do other things and think this is just an easy out for him to avoid having to put in the work and seek the security within the govt. I realized I sounded so selfish after our convo and apologized. After some praying and thinking I'll be okay with whatever decision he makes even if I don't agree with it and wish him nothing but the best. Guessing my feelings for my brother just got the best of me knowing that he can be great doing other things when there are so many other options out there.