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Daily Calls & Solo Dinner: Uncomfortable with New Friend's (44F) Advances (Couple 38F/42M)
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Navigating a Cross-Cultural Friendship: Advice Needed (Couple 38F/42M, Woman 44F) Background:

My wife (38F) and I (42M) are Indian immigrants living in Texas. We're not particularly outgoing, but over a year ago, we met a friendly American woman (44F) at our son's soccer class. Their sons became friends, but when we switched clubs, our interactions became infrequent.

Reconnecting and Growing Concerns:

Three months ago, we bumped into her and her son at a game and reconnected. We exchanged numbers, and my wife started receiving daily calls from her. The conversations seemed casual initially, but the frequency and recent developments have raised concerns for me.

Specific Events and My Discomfort:

Daily Calls: My wife enjoys chatting with her, but the daily calls feel excessive to me. Solo Valentine's Dinner: Last week, she invited us to her house for Valentine's Day dinner, suggesting other friends would join. However, only we showed up, which made me feel uneasy, especially considering her initial mention of others. Trip Suggestions: She's also suggested planning a summer trip together, further intensifying my unease. Possible Reasons for My Discomfort:

I acknowledge that my cultural background may influence my interpretation of social norms. However, I can't shake the feeling that something about this friendship feels unbalanced or potentially inappropriate.

Seeking Advice:

Cultural Perspective: Could this be a normal level of friendliness in American culture, or are my concerns valid considering my background? Communication with My Wife: How can I constructively discuss my discomfort with my wife without shutting her down or being disrespectful of her perspective? Overall Goal:

I want to navigate this situation respectfully and ensure everyone feels comfortable. I appreciate any insights or advice you can offer based on your expertise and understanding of cross-cultural dynamics.

TL;DR: Indian couple (38F/42M) reconnected with American mom (44F) whose son was previously their son's friend. Daily calls, solo Valentine's dinner invite, and trip suggestions make husband uncomfortable, unsure if cultural difference or genuine friendship. Seeks advice:

Is this normal in American culture? How to discuss concerns with wife respectfully? Goal: Navigate situation respectfully and avoid hurting feelings.

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