Probably a really dumb question, but better to ask anyway. This idea of freeuse has really gotten it's grips into me. I will soon be divorcing and the prospect of dating has me both excited and extremely nervous. In my next relationship, and I do want one, I want open and honest communication. I hope we are both non-judgmental and are curious to learn where the other is coming from. But...this is the big but... I want the freeuse or sexual kink exploration factor worked in. The thought of dating to get to that point and find out it's not to be is not something I want to do. I want to be able to find that someone knowing they are open ahead of time. Of course at the same time that might affect how I treat them and what I look for.

In the end I want a loving, understanding, honest, sexual relationship... Who doesn't right? How....?