We have a 6 month old foster baby, drug exposed and born very premature. So it's been rough. We have had him for 3 months. He's doing awesome, very healthy, gaining weight, eats well, sleeping better.

Things are finally going ok with him, but his mom likes to nitpick the tiny things. We've had complaints about scratches on his face (that he did), not dressing him warmly enough, and today that we don't brush his hair and put oil on his scalp.

The kid is happy, healthy and honestly lucky to be alive after what happened to him. So how to I even respond? I just said "ok" to the caseworker, but I don't want to give her the power to think she can micromanage our life. If it's health or safety related sure. But his appearance? I just don't have the energy.

Edit: so after all that, I agreed, take the high road. Brush his hair before visits, oil the scalp so there's not a bit of dry skin.

At court two days ago she throws us completely under the bus, saying that we don't care for his hygiene because we don't brush his hair or put lotion on him (which we do) and the judge agreed and piled on US, that we should be more careful and culturally sensitive. And not one person on our team so up for us, just let mom and judge dump on us.

That's when I realized we have nobody on our side. Mom has her team and support, not one person on the team gives a crap about our family.