Long story short, an old coworker of mine is fostering my two little cousins (girls, aged 4 and 6). I’ve been helping a lot with them since she works full time and I’m off school for the summer (nursing student).

The kids dad is my cousin, he is in prison. The kids mom lives at a homeless shelter and while I know she loves her kids (3 kids total, the boy is somewhere else), she only wants the youngest (the older two are a handful).

My old coworker/my cousins foster mom mentioned to me their other day that she has “been avoiding” the girls moms. They haven’t had their visit with her in a couple weeks. They are online visits due to Covid and apparently only supervised by the foster mom.

Another cousin messaged to ask the mom how the girls were. She basically said she really likes the foster mom and that she does this and this and this with the girls - making her look great (fm is NOT mother material at all). The mom has no idea the fm said she’s been avoiding her. I’m not sure why she thinks she hasn’t talked to her kids.

It really bothers me that it’s up to the fm when the girls get to see/talk to their mom. And that she can just decide she doesn’t want to deal with it. I don’t know who she’s told that to, so I don’t want to turn her in to the agency and jeopardize my contact with the girls.

Thoughts? In IL if it matters.