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I recently had a positive pregnancy test (woo!!). We've been wanting a child, but we lost some focus a month ago when we took in a foster child.
The foster is 16f and also my student. It's been great and our student/teacher relationship and fostering relationship has only brought us closer. We have a great relationship prior to this and it's only gotten better.
When do you think it would be appropriate to tell her I'm pregnant?
I also want to tell her in a fun way - she's our first kid that we have taken care over, and now we are also having our first baby. Lots of firsts all at once! I'm thinking to wait a little bit to tell her, I also don't want to leave her out of something that is very cool and exciting for us. I would love to include her on as much as possible so long as it's positive and doesn't add to her plate. Thoughts?
I wouldn't do it as a surprise, but have a thoughtful conversation with here where she feels safe. Because telling her you are pregnant might make her feel she is being pushed out or replaced, and it can be scary.
Depending on her background and history her parents might have made her parent other siblings, so she might also be scared you will expect her to raise the baby, so definitely make it clear that is not the case.
Maybe also reassure her that you will try to put the nursery away from her room (if possible) so that the crying doesn't impact her too much or maybe offer to buy her good headphones or earplugs as a gesture that you also care for her and not solely focused on the new baby.
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