It's the same for many of us in this crisis: We have no one but ourselves at home. We're feeling lonely. But that was true for me before. I discovered this sub by accident and thought I might as well give it a try.

Who I am: I'm a 27-year old male from the beautiful city of Vienna in Austria. I have studied Classics, earned my Master's degree last Spring and am now working on my PhD as a staff member of the Classics department at the University of Vienna.

I am 186cm tall and average built. I don't have a sixpack, although I wish I had. My biceps is lacking. But I think I am callipygan (; I also run a lot and play football and I'll never let myself get out of shape. I was chubby when I was a child and I swore I'd never become like that ever again. It's important to me not only because I like to stay healthy and good looking for myself, but also because I feel that my future partner deserves someone handsome, someone that takes care of himself. Someone attractive. For the record, I also have tattoos.

How I am: I like to think that I am social, that I am outgoing. I am conversational: you can talk the whole night with me if you get me going. I can be quite passionate on a great deal of topics (some more than others, naturally). At the same time, I am an introvert – bear with me, this is not some elaborate attempt to tick all the boxes. What I mean by that is simply that I need alone-time. Not a small amount, I'll be honest, but also not in a "I won't notice you're gone if we don't see each other for a week" way. I was like that when I was younger; not anymore. I need time for my thoughts, my own projects. I need time to unwind after I had social contact. Depends on the day/the week how much.

I am intelligent. I won't pretend to be educated in lots of fields; on the contrary, on many I am lacking. But I am educated enough that, after a short introduction, you can tell me about it without my eyes becoming hazy and me dozing off or having a stroke. You can have intellectual conversations with me. I speak German, English, Italian and a little bit of Greek, also I'm learning to read French right now and am planning to learn Spanish in the near future and Portuguese after that. I'm also curious and interested in lots of stuff and I'm guaranteed to take an interest in what you are doing.

I'm funny/childish. We can joke around together. I'm not a guy to tell jokes, rather one-liners. I like to laugh together.

I'm empathic. I spent my formative years thinking about feelings and was constantly worrying myself whether I was a good friend to my peers. I can relate to lots of things I have never experienced. I've always been a firm believer that while you simply can't know how something feels unless you've experienced it, you can still relate and be there for someone. We are capable of putting ourselves into a situation/someone's position. I will listen to your problems. I will hold you if you cry. I will stroke you and read to you to feel better. I will make you tea or bake you something if that makes you feel better or just sit beside you and shut up. And in the end, I will pour out all the positive power I have inside me to tell you that nothing can stop us. I will make it a you-and-me-against-the-world so that you feel better (if you're so inclined; I've always had this sense for heroism.) Which leads me to:

I am positive. I am also a misanthrope that hates mankind and what it has done with this place and there are days when I want to escape this world for all its suffering. I am Viennese, that means I am hateful by birth and I will casually grumble and nag about others. But that does not change the fundamental fact that I am a positive person. I see – within realistic boundaries – opportunities, not limitations. I'd rather focus on what unites us than what are our differences. I don't always manage, but I like to leave negative stuff behind and try to focus on doing something which makes me/us happy. I have always found it somewhat sad that in the happiest moments of my life, I was alone. I never had a person to share all the happiness with. I had days when I was standing on the banks of the Danube, so content and blissful with my life and all I wanted was a lady beside me to share this happiness with. I firmly believe that beautiful and happy moments are meant to be enjoyed together.

I have lots and lots of love to give. I am looking for a committed relationship because that is what I have to offer. If we click and work together, I am 100% your man. I won't lie: I have my limits and there are some boundaries I cannot go over (see below), but whatever I can do, all I am capable to do, I will do for you to be happy. That does include, but doesn't necessarily mean showering you with affection. I can do that – not constantly, but certainly for a while –, but I can also give you your space or just be with you without actively doing anything. I won't be able to always give 100% every day, but I can promise you that I'll try. I always try to be the best me, even more so towards you. You can count on me.

I am honest. I've never been good at lying and there haven't been many occasions where I did. I'll always tell you the truth.

I am loyal. I am on your side and I will defend you. Also, I will never cheat – and I would not, even if I hadn't been cheated on myself. It's just not what I do. I have principles and I stand by them.

I am romantic and intense. I like dressing fancy and going out together. Just the two of us. Candlelight dinner. The opera. Dancing. Cocktails. You name it. I can write poems for you if you like (have been doing that half my life). Also, I am passionate. I love intensely, not just during the honeymoon phase. If we click, my love grows over time. After five years of my last relationship I felt just as in love with her as in the beginning.

I am also:

– Not a morning person (have to get up, but don't like it. Doesn't mean I'll always sleep in while you get bored, but at least not getting out of bed immediately on a weekend would be preferred).

– Not a travelling person. I like to see other countries and cultures, but I don't like the travel itself. I don't need 10 trips a year, 1 is totally fine.

– Not adventurous. While it may seem like I am active because I do lots of sport, I'm actually more of a relaxing type of guy. I like to go to the SPA. I like to enjoy calm and quiet environments. I don't need an adventure each weekend; I'd rather stay home or go someplace near and focus on us or on a project you or I might have.

– Not a winter person. I like the romance of winter and I'd love to go to a resort, drink red wine and make love in front of a fireplace. But I don't like winter sports and to be honest, I don't really like being outside (apart from the occasional stroll through the Christmas fair, of course).

– Someone who gets angry fast (but only in specific situations, mostly when tech/machine stuff doesn't work). But I am actively working on it and it's easier for me when you are around and can hug me and tell me to do something else with you to forget about it.

– Someone who gets sad for no particular reason on several occasions during the year. Sometimes, little things I see throughout the day make me incredibly sad. Also, I cry easily and sometimes it (still) takes lots of effort to communicate a specific feeling, moreso when trying not to cry at the same time. But I always try and I won't hide anything; it just takes me time to process, sometimes.

– Taking time to apologize/get over an argument, sometimes. While I have no problem seeing that I was wrong and apologizing, sometimes I just need my time to give it more thought, to think it through. So even if at first, I seem stubborn or opposed, I will see the reasoning in the end.

– Someone who inevitably develops "relationship noises". Like cooing. It always happened naturally with my past partners and I always feared it could be a dealbreaker. Again, I can be childish in this regard and enjoy doing it together, but of course I don't do it in public or when inappropriate. I can be dead serious!

What I like:

– Books/literature: Sci-Fi, Crime fiction, Horror. Also, the classics. Recently more fantasy.

– Movies/Series: Genres the same as above. I like both watching only a few episodes together before going to bed and also full out bingeing a series if it gets us that hooked.

– Games: Anything with a good story, really. Point&Click, RPG, MMO, Walking Sim.

Note that with any of the above, I can really immerse in them for a while and then do something else entirely and return x days/weeks/months later. So you don't have to fear I'm addicted to anything; it's just the way I enjoy most things: really intensely and passionately.

– Cooking. I love to cook and do it every day. I can cook for you, if you want, or we do it together. I'm also vegan, so I won't process anything animal related (see below). My favourtie cuisines are Italian, Mexican and Asian.

– Baking. Recently discovered this and so far am liking it, but probably never as much as cooking.

– Gardening. Mostly growing herbs on my balcony but would love to explore this together if you're so inclined.

– Culture. I like art (mostly photography and painting) and the opera. We can go to a museum together or watch a film at the film festival in Summer.

– Relaxing/strolling around the city with no particular destination, just spending time together, grabbing ice-cream or cold drinks, holding hands, talking.

– Music/events. I like to go to concerts often. I have listened to Metal all my life and still enjoy seeing bands perform life. Recently, however, I've also discovered electronic music; I like ambient, but also psy and trance and I love a good night of raving in a club (although I still have to explore that some more). I also like going out for a beer/wine/cocktails and talk with you about your day over it – Austria has a vivid pub culture and I like that about it.

- Urban life. I like the vibe of the metropolis and the opportunity it offers. However, I also like the calm of the countryside and going there for relaxation and inspiration.

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What I am looking for:

First of all: You don't have to tick all the boxes above, i.e.: You don't have to have the same interests as I do. I am completely fine if you don't. I don't care if we don't listen to the same music or don't enjoy the same artstyle or don't like the same kind of movies. I found that to me, a basic compatibility in other regards is much more important. Being on the same wavelength. Having the same concept of love/what a relationship has to have to be fulfilling. Therefore, I'll list the things I can't compromise on and add a few notes:

– Monogamy. I don't want anybody else, just the two of us.

– Sex is important. I have a high libido and really enjoy sex and ideally, you do too. It's part of how I bond with a woman and as with making sure you feel loved, it's equally important to me you feel satisfied. It is also one of my love-languages (the other being words of affection). I like to try out stuff together, although it's more important if we stick to what really works for us after we've found out. Also, while I'm quite experimental and would try out almost everything with/for you, I don't have any extreme kinks and most of them can stay a fantasy if you're not into it. Again, it's more about the intensity of it; about being sex-positive, finding our balance and enjoying it together.

– Childfree life. I don't want kids and cannot have any of my own.

– Settling down. My career has yet to unfold, but apart from a year or so in Rome, I'm planning on staying in Austria and, ideally, on the outskirts of the capital, so I'm hoping to find someone who is comfortable with that. On the pro side: You get to experience the most liveable city in the world with me! :D

– You are comfortable doing stuff on your own/don't need me around you all the time. As stated above, I like spending time together, obviously, but I'm more of a quality-over-quantity person. I think that this is easily solved, however, by living together when you are just a door away from each other.

– You are comfortable standing your ground in an argument. While I am generally looking for harmony, sometimes, fights are unavoidable and necessary. And while I am not the type to talk over someone else or anything – I am quite constructive – it CAN get heated up and you have to be able to fire back so there is no imbalance between us. I already experienced this once and it completely hindered the development of the relationship.

– You have no problem with me crying and being the "weak" part of the duo in a while. I am generally a happy person most of the year, but I have my moments. I want to be held and I want to be told everything is gonna be fine by a woman. I want to feel secure in your arms (and of course do the same for you). This is, again, a matter of balance between us.

Not that important/debatable:

– Marriage. I always liked the thought of marrying, for the cool party, best with a theme, celebrating with all your friends and all that, but if it's not important to you, we can leave it be.

– Faith. I am an atheist and I really don't care, what you believe in, as long as I don't have to participate. We can, of course, talk about it: If it is important to you, if it is a part of your personality, I will listen, as with anything else, and I will respect it.

– You don't have to be vegan and I won't get on your nerves about it. I'm happy if I can just do my own thing, although I'd be hurt if you wouldn't at least try all the delicious dishes I have to offer. Did I mention I like to cook for my lady?

– You don't have to be super into sports/fitness/whatev, as long as you take basic care of yourself and stay in shape (which, I get it, can be hard because I'm constantly cooking). Which brings me to my last point:

– Looks. They matter to me, to a degree. Attraction is important to me. I like to think I have a broad spectrum of what I find attractive in women. There are limits, toward the extreme of either side, to be precise, but in between, anything is fine, be it skinny or curvy. Size doesn't matter. Typical "flaws" don't matter. I have to find you attractive and sadly, I can only tell when seeing (and of course also hearing and smelling) you, which is why I find we should exchange pictures in private and/or meet up as soon as this virus-madness is somewhat over – but maybe it helps to say that I like the majority of women I see. I'm not a super-model either, far from it, so I don't want this to come over the wrong way. Bottom line is: Attraction is what matters.

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If you've read all the way, congratulations; this turned out way longer than I'd expected. If, by any chance, you also find me interesting, I'd love to read from you! Stay healthy out there.

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EDIT: Added some stuff.