Anyone who understands that reference is my type of person! It’s that time of year again, the time when we get colder and lonelier then usual and desire to find that special connection with someone out there. My plan B/C unfortunately didn’t work out once my house was finished being built so I’m back to plan A to throw out a post and hope for that Christmas miracle connection to hit. I write super long, potentially unnecessary posts lol, so I hope you have some free time or just enjoy reading. If for whatever weird reason you want more info my profile is filled with it so feel free to poke around as this is my actual profile, it’s not blank/empty. Before we get started on some dealbreakers I will give some basic info. I just turned 40, white, 6.2 220, BS degree in IT, just finished building my home, love animals, ISFJ personality, live in central Cali, enjoy intimacy and games. Compared to previous posts I will also list some of the biggest questions I get in response to certain areas and my answers.

Before we get started I just wanted to say that this version ( despite its length I know lol ) had a lot of words cut from it because of the subs 10k character limit. If you want to read the full version please go to my profile and read it from one of the other subs. Thanks for reading.

Let’s start off with probably the biggest issue with potential partners, relocation. I have spent the past 3 years building a house here in central California. It has cost me quite a bit of gold rupees, and thus I don’t intend to be moving anytime soon. You would need to be open to relocation if things work out. I understand that something like that can affect many aspects of a person’s life so we can talk about all the details, but you would need to be open to the idea. [for bonus points]

Next up let’s talk about distance. I would prefer you to be in California. I can’t expect central Cali because almost no one from reddit I have ever talked to minus a couple people have been from central lol. It is simply easier to visit each other being able to drive in the same state. That being said if you happen to be in another state and feel like we have that miracle connection, and are willing to fly out here to meet up eventually feel free to send me a message anyway.

Hobbies/passions is an area of a relationship I feel is very important. You want to find someone you love and who loves you for who each of you are right? Gaming like many posts on here… like really 80% the ones from men on here lol, is a hobby and passion of mine. I want my partner to be a gamer as well. I understand some people don’t think its important that partners share hobbies, but at the very least It’s important to me that they share this one. It doesn’t matter to me what you play, as long as you have that passion that is fine. I want to be able to have conversations about games, characters, looking forward to playing something together, and all kinds of other little dumb things. It’s just not the same if your partner doesn’t understand, and they won’t if they don’t game.

Intimacy is another area of a relationship that is extremely important. Many relationships fail because the intimacy levels between people are not on equal footing. It is going to cause one person or both to be unhappy leading to problems in the long run. Intimacy is important to me. Physical touch is my love language and I enjoy showing it. Cuddling especially on a cold night while we watch something or play a game together is probably my favorite way to spend an evening. [the word]

Do you want to hike across the Himalayas, explore the Egyptian deserts, or travel from country to country every year exploring the vast world? Then please do not message me lol. Traveling is a big thing for people nowadays. Many people have bucket lists or on apps I see a lot of what they want to do more this year is TRAVEL! I am happy that those people found something they love, but I don’t love traveling and have no desire to be a world traveler. Therefore, if you want to travel the world, we are not compatible. There are some places I wouldn’t mind going, Japan being my #1 here.

Introvert vs extrovert or homebody vs outdoors person is a typical thing that people talk about. Do you want to go camping, fishing, mountain climbing and rafting down rivers????? That sounds like exactly the opposite of what I want to do lol. I am a homebody! My ultimate night would be grabbing/cooking some food then cuddling up on the couch while we binge watch something or play a game together. Hiking is ok but most outdoor things are a bleh to me. I would very much prefer a partner who more-so enjoys staying home then going out. If however you are someone who wants to go out all the time that I guess would depend on how much. I do love going to certain places and smaller outings though. [triforce] I enjoy the occasional concert, especially gaming ones like Zelda/Final fantasy, distant worlds was an amazing concert and I will 100% go again when it comes back to California somewhere. I love places like the zoo/aquarium, anything with animals, occasionally the museum and enjoyable gardens, and we can’t forget an amusement park every so often.

I am not specific about looking for certain things in a forever partner. Age for example I am very flexible on. Everyone matures at a different pace and learns things in life. On the low end mid 20s is fine, on the high end early 50’s is probably where I am at, even those are a little flexible by a bit, but it’s a range for anyone who wants to know. I have no issues with any ethnicity. As for appearance/ht/wt I am very flexible as well. As long as you are healthy that’s what matters in that regard, heck I got a dad bod myself, but I’m healthy. We can share pics to get that out of the way though. Someone’s compatibility is what’s going to last in the long run. [in your]

Vanilla is not just not some people’s favorite type of ice cream ( mine is cookie dough though ) it’s me in a nutshell. I don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. There isn’t any drama in my life. I have a close family and a small group of close friends. I have had successful long-term relationships of 5 years that only ended due to real world issues such as my partner moving away for schooling or due to life/career choices. [response to me] I am financially stable ( although extremely poor after building this house lol  ) with a high credit score. I don’t use social media unless you count reddit occasionally and discord. I am emotional available, affectionate, healthy, and have all my life ducks in a row. Basically… for better or worse I am a very simple straightforward person.

Nerdy through and through. Gaming, although my number 1 passion and hobby is not the only thing I am interested in of course. Lot’s of more nerdy subjects can get thrown into the ring here. I won’t go over massive details here but I will list some things. Anime ( and donghua ) is a close second to gaming. I enjoy card games, TTRPG, and board games as well. [lets see if] I am thinking about trying to set up some card/board game nights now that my house is done being built.  I enjoy Japanese and korean pop and rock music as well as VGM and Anison of course. I love to binge Chinese/Japanese/Korean drama/action/fantasy. I subscribe to VIKI, which is like an Asian version of Netflix lol.

Congrats, you made it to the end of probably one of the longest posts you have read on one of these subs, if not THE longest. I get a lot of questions about why I make these so long. I’m old… I know what I want and what is going to work for me. I understand getting to know someone should be fun and exciting, and it is! At the same time wasting time and energy talking to someone who is never going to work out is not fun. That is why I go through all these big ticket issues. It saves both me and her time. Most of the time when I post I get more compliments then serious inquires, which is flattering but kind of sad lol. If you are still reading and if you are interested then send me a message or a chat. Tell me about yourself, what you are looking for in a relationship, and be sure to include your favorite game of all time and what you are currently playing, and I will get back to you in time. Anything with a few sentences or a 1 liner I will assume is a bot/other intentions and will not reply. Let’s be adults and talk about things upfront and we can decide if we want to proceed further or not. Just be honest/upfront and yourself. I have plenty of pics that are ready to be exchanged after an initial chat. If you profile is empty but you provide a good response I don’t mind. I am not expecting an essay like I wrote, but if you really read all this and can’t even write a paragraph of information about yourself I don’t think you are my cup of tea. If I am not your type of person then I hope you find yours! Thanks for reading and have a Merry Christmas and happy new year. May 2025 be better for us all.