Hey there!

I’m 31 years old! I’m currently working nights for a medical manufacturing company (hoping to get back in school for engineering soon and move to days/or second shift though), and am about 5 months single. To be honest, my life in a lot of ways feels like it’s at a new starting point both professionally and personally. Most of my 20’s I worked in operations management and then in the music industry as part of a media team. But operations management is soul crushing and media sadly just doesn’t pay what it needs to pay so here I am working third shift at 31 years old.

I’ve been in and out of relationships through my 20’s and now into my early 30’s. Some were shorter some were longer but for one reason or another, none of them worked out. I take some comfort in the fact that all these Reddit dating boards seem to have people in the same boat as me in that regard.

So I guess that brings me to what I am doing here. To be honest I think I’m trying to find someone I can deeply connect with, on a personal and physical level. I know it’s unlikely that I’ll find the love of my life on Reddit but, I do believe she’s out there still, somewhere. Looking for that, “she’s my best friend, my lover, and the person I’m thankful I get to spend the rest of my life with” kind of love. We could go from watching stupid meme compilations to saying the cheesiest romantic stuff to each other in 5 seconds and I’d probably be the happiest guy in the world if I had somebody on that level.

I’d like to take things pretty casually at first if we click— texting, voice calls, and video calls are all fine with me. Location doesn’t matter too much to me either, I’m very much not wanting to settle down where I’m currently at so relocation one day is also an option as well. USA/CA/Mexico would probably be the option just off the cuff.

A little about me — I am actually the biggest nerd you’ll ever meet. I love all things miniatures and warhammer, tabletop RPGs like dungeons and dragons, love to read (especially fantasy and horror), also love movies. Sometimes I’ll play a video game or two but my other hobbies usually take up most of my time. Also big fan of playing guitar, though now it’s mostly bedroom and not on a stage.

I’m 6 ft with hazel eyes, brown hair, quite a few tattoos (more to come and I understand this is a deal breaker for some), pretty left leaning, I’d say “in between dad bod and average youngish person” for my body haha happy to trade pics if you’re interested and comfortable with that.

Here’s a brief PowerPoint presentation in what I’m looking for in someone 1. Chemistry - feel like it’s a “you either have it or you don’t” kind of thing. It just makes or breaks romantic relationships imo. Our personality’s just have to match and you never know if it’s like that until you talk to someone for a bit. 2. Physical Attraction - a lot of people I’ve been with feel they have to look a certain way or have a certain body type but at the end of the day, for me at least, this is a lot like chemistry, if the attraction is there that’s what matters. Physical touch with my partner is a very important thing to me and we’ve both got to be attracted to each other for that to work out. I will say since I am a bit of an alternative guy, I am naturally drawn a bit more to alternative women/NB folks as well. Tattoos, piercings, alternative fashion are all a bit of a turn on for me. 3. Long term mindset - obviously this isn’t upfront but at the end of the day I’m looking for someone I can build a life with. I’m impartial to having kids — if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t it doesn’t, what matters more to me is finding love. Real love that I can grow with. 4. You have your own passions and life — I’m a relatively independent guy. I like my alone time sometimes, or my own time to do hobbies and such while my partner does their own thing. I love being with someone I care about but I’d want for both of us to never able to do our own thing sometimes and also be able to come home to each other one day after doing that and being thankful for that kind of understanding and relationship.

Anyway

There is probably more I can say here and I’m sure this will get drowned out by everyone else in the world who’s lonely looking for someone, but if you read this and are interested, shoot me a Reddit chat. I’d really love to hear from you and get to know you.