I never know how to intro these posts, so I guess I’ll dive right. Buckle up.

So the basics, I’m 32, white female, 5’2”, 115lbs, reddish hair and blue/grey eyes. I’m from a small town in eastern Colorado, USA. Single, no kids yet but really hoping to be a mom soon(ish).

I’m a dog mom, a super avid traveler (42 countries, 26 US states), very crafty/creative/diy type. I love stories, I collect books, listen to tons of audiobooks and work on and off on writing stories. I’m currently working on being a travel advisor as a side gig but have a day job at my family’s small business. I’m absolutely a pop culture nerd and a Disney adult. I love home decorating, fandom collections, crystals and action adventure movies. And a fun fact about me is that I really love sea turtles! Ive snorkeled with turtles in 7 countries so far, and worked at a sea turtle rescue in Greece.

I’m usually kinda a lone wolf sort, introverted and do require a fair bit of time alone. I very rarely drink anymore because I’ve had alcohol issues in the past. Politically moderate but pretty much hate politics. Believer in God, but not a participant in organised religion.

Essentially what I’m looking for is a companion and teammate in life. I’m open to traditional dynamics including that thing with rings and/or living together. Or less traditional options like living apart together, long distance, BFFs who co-parent etc. But I want someone who wants to be in this together, who communicates often and effectively, steps up to the plate ready to go to bat and who’s a team player.

Two absolute essentials…. 1. You MUST want to have and co-parent an awesome kid or two. 2. You want and are able to travel together. Every year I try to go to Disney, do at least one-two international trips (something I want to continue with kids too)

Other super crucial things… Being sexually compatible and sexually attracted to each other (if it’s a sexual relationship). You must be a dog lover/dog person. You love to have interesting conversations, you don’t smoke or do drugs, you don’t drink or drink minimally and have some nerdy common interests (Disney, HP, Marvel, Star Wars).

If you’re in Colorado or nearby that would be cool. But not super fussed about location if you are able and willing to travel. Or possibly relocate. That goes for anyone abroad as well. Just know I have no intentions to relocate anytime soon. (Ideally I’d like to have kids when I’m near to my family) but I may be open to relocating later on.

So, full transparency I’m a bit unusual. Im a rare INTJ female (only 1% of woman are this type). And though personality archetypes aren’t everything, mine, along with a few other factors such as ADHD and being sort of “gray-romantic” has shaped me into a bit of an anomaly. Let me explain.

I strongly prioritise brain over heart. I am very logical, rational, curious, independent and emotionally reserved. I am much more likely to get attached to people who stimulate my mind, rather than being attached based on emotions.

I am not very “feelings oriented”, I am not a sappy, mushy or lovey-dovey type. I do not need (or really like) a lot of romantic affection or cuddling. I’m not going to constantly ask you to talk about feelings. And I may not always discuss mine. Instead I want to share minds. Ideas, thoughts, deep discussions. Ignite my curiosity, teach me something new, philosophise with me. I absolutely can and have been in love, I can form deep attachments and feel affection, it just looks a little different.

Probably worth mentioning all of the above also applies to sex for me. I absolutely am a very sexual person. I really enjoy good sex, hot sex, fun sex. Feeling sexually desired and receiving sexual touch is absolutely essential for me to feel intimately connected. But “love-making” or emotional sex is just not something I am comfortable with.

So, yeah. I’m a bit of an anomaly and from experience I understand that a lot of people aren’t going to be okay with all of that. Which is why I mention it up front.

If you’ve made it this far, I’m already amazed. I tend to talk (or type) a lot! So I’ll leave it here.

If I didn’t scare you away, message me with a little about yourself and include your favourite Disney park ride & favourite travel destination. Would prefer to exchange pics in the first few messages too. Not interested in causal chats. Single liners and super low effort messages will immediately be deleted.