I’m 30 years old from New Jersey, United States looking for someone to share the rest of my life with. My post is long, but in my opinion transparency and open communication can save a lot of time and energy. If you reach the end of this post without coming across a “dealbreaker”, please message me!

I’m looking for someone younger than me who is in the United States, has the ability to come to the United States, or who is comfortable with dealing with the logistics of having me go to your country (more on this is located at the end of the post).

Although personality is most important to me, physical / sexual attraction can unfortunately have an impact. My preference is someone who is masculine and at a healthy weight (or a little chubby with the goal of getting to a healthy weight).

I’ll share a little about my personality and interests and then will continue with the deep and logistical side of things.

Quality time, whether it’s sitting and talking, going for a walk, or watching a movie, is important to me. Also, a simple life with few possessions and obligations is something I’m looking for. So, a small apartment without children would be ideal. I’m not looking to own a car since walking is cheaper and healthier.

I’m passionate about technology and business and as an analytical person enjoying finding solutions to problems we face in society each day. I also enjoy spending time with nature, studying Google Maps, reading Wikipedia, and photography.

I’m not religious, but believe everyone should have the right to believe what they want as long as it is not causing harm to others. I’m interested in politics, but try not to focus on it.

I’m the type of person to want to be around my partner all the time, know everything about them, and be involved in everything that’s going on in their life. I’m comfortable with them wanting the same from me.

Physically, although I’ve been called “cute” and “adorable” by some, I’m a big guy and should lose about half my body weight. If you are turned off by a guy who is that large, then you might want to continue your search.

In addition, my mental health is poor. I’m seeing a therapist and have been trying my best to improve, but it is certain my mental health will impact our relationship (both positively and negatively).

I’m a private person and don’t feel comfortable sharing anything identifying on Reddit, but I’ll share my name and photo on Signal or WhatsApp *if you share first* (since people have been lying saying they’ll send after me and then don’t).

My current situation is providing me with enough for me to stay here in the United States (due to some assistance programs provided due to my mental health) but it is not enough even for a lower cost of living country.

Although I’m open to moving to another country, it is complicated due to what is mentioned in the above paragraph and various immigration / visa policies.

Therefore, it’s best if you are already planning on coming to the United States and have a path to citizenship that doesn’t require my help. *I’m not able to satisfy the government requirements for you to come here.*

If you’d want me to go to your country, or if you can’t come here due to your own situation, we would need to explore the options available, feel comfortable navigating the huge logistical challenges of having me go there, and be willing to accept the risks involved.