Dating can be very frustrating and I'd like to value your time, let's see if we both match:

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I naturally have a nurturing, mentor-like role – geeking out about people, being a calming force and a guide is just really fulfilling to me and helps me grow as a person. However, I'd love to meet that special someone who I can pour all my attention, heart and soul into and who does the same for me in return. It's important to me that whoever I'm with chooses me for me, and that's why I don't want kids. I prefer to focus on one person completely and together build a long-term, romantic and lasting relationship based on being vulnerable, accepting and honest with one another. Always cooperating and communicating, pulling towards rather than away. Height wise I'm 5'11/180cm and prefer someone shorter/petite/slim.

Personality

My mind is quite analytical and I have a more grounded, rational and stable temperament, definitely not a risk taker, think someone that's more "slow and steady wins the race". Computer science is my major and passion, so I admit I can be a fixer, problem solver and ask a LOT of questions. If there's any fear I have it's fear of uncertainty and being kept in the dark. I make sure to respect any boundaries in the process.

I'm drawn to people who are vibrant, intense and passionate but also have conventionally feminine traits. Meaning sweet, expressive, tender, devoted perhaps anxious. I'm honest to a fault and my insistence on truths can come across blunt or critical to some even if I try to be compassionate, so it's nice to be with someone who dwells on things deeply and is more sensitive. I'd also like to reassure you that if your life is coloured by ADHD/BPD and so you're a bit more neurotic, I'd be actually more interested than repelled in trying to understand you. It would feel like we balance each other out in a way, if that makes sense.

I have this memory condition called SDAM where I don't really ever re-experience my past. It's a blessing and a curse, I don't hold grudges and always see you as you are in the present moment, but I can also be very out of sight, out of mind. Clinginess actually helps me in relationships, since I guess whereas other people might reject you and say "we just talked!" and ask to be left alone, I'd just welcome you back and continue where we left off. I can also re-watch movies and shows and that doesn't bore me, since it's like a new experience even if I know what will happen, which is kinda neat actually.

However it does mean my visualisation skills are rather poor, so I'd appreciate if you have an active imagination and can fill in for me. With your permission, I'd love to vicariously live through you while you daydream and are afloat. I'd make a great hypnotist that's the string that ties you back to earth and grounds you, or simply give you a structure and footing or anxiety relief. That's more what I excel at.

Interests, Hobbies, Conversation starters

• Psychology, Mental health: I can offer you my understandings and insights. Whether you need a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a gentle nudge, I'm here for you, both emotionally and cognitively.
• Philosophy, Spirituality: I enjoy exploring life's mysteries and having meaningful conversations. I'm open to different perspectives and beliefs, and I prefer dialogues over debates. I'm not a fan of dogmatic, polarising and black and white thinking, which is why I generally avoid belief systems that lack cognitive flexibility. Oh also I'm a leo sun, libra moon and acquarius rising if you're into that :P
• Tech, Gaming: Bit of a nerd for me is an understatement when it comes to technology. I don't really play competitive games anymore since my teens, but I still like the social aspect of playing co-op games together. I could show you new ways to play Stardew Valley and Minecraft with mods where we could build robots and nuclear reactors, or just overengineer our garden
• J-fashion, Anime: I have a keen eye for details and I enjoy seeing how people express themselves and wear their hearts on their sleeves. I love romantic, cute or elegant goth coords, both Asian and Western. I also like anime and cosplay, and I'm curious about your tastes and favourites.
• Voice, Music: Used to be a sound engineer and voice coach. My vocal range goes from throat singing to uwu, so if you're bisexual/pan you're getting a 2-for-1 deal here haha. My default is a deeper Polish-Irish voice though. I also enjoy electronic music and play a few eccentric instruments you've probably never heard of. I could teach you some tricks sometime.
• Healthy living, DIY: Life's just that much more enjoyable when you invest in yourself and your living space. I've 3d-printed ergonomic keyboards, make sodas and sugar-free treats from scratch and an EEG sleeping mask to monitor my sleep, have a treadmill under my desk, cycle and tried every cooking method under the sun except the sun itself, maybe some day...

If you've read this far, thank you so much for your time and attention, it means a lot! If you found this compelling shoot me a message and feel free to ask me anything, no stupid questions! Looking forward to hearing from you. 💕