It’s hard trying to narrate my life in a few sentences in a way that makes me and my life appealing enough to convince someone to message me. At its core, I like the life that I want to live, but I wish that I had someone to share that life with. That has been my core desire for most of my adult like, and yet, here I am 36 and am still single.
So here it goes, who I’m I:

I am generally a homebody, an introvert. I would rather have dinner with a few friends than go to a rager. I am pretty nerdy- I grew up with The Simpsons, Star Trek, and Lord of the Rings. As an adult, I added things like Doctor Who and Ursula K. Le Guin. I listen to too many podcasts (Blank Check, Death Panel, and Revolutions are a few favorites). I like to cook and bake, though I find it hard while living alone, unless I have plans so I can share with friends. I an avid reader, for the last year I have been telling anyone who will listen about the New Zealand author HP Parry. Her Shadow Histories duology, takes place during alternative versions of the French and Haitian Revolutions where there is magic. It is extremely my speed.

I went to college in Chicago, grad school in Minnesota. Grad school nearly killed me, and I am only kind of kidding. I have a chronic illness, ESRD, my physical and mental health were definitely made worse by my time in grad school. But that is years behind me now and I have spent that time working on both and think I am at a pretty good place with both, though my chronic illness does take up a good deal of my time.

I have had leftist politics (libertarian socialist /anarchist tendency) since I was a teenager- my first street protest was in the in lead up to the Iraq War in the fall of 2002. Also, I am non-religious. You don’t need to agree with every belief I hold, but I am not looking to debate core beliefs of what I stand for. That said there are many things I won’t stand for- racism, queerphobia, ableism, fatphobia, and “just asking questions” about trans people right to exist need not apply.
I am non-binary, but was AMAB, and generally masc presenting. (they/them pronouns). I have limited romantic attraction to masc presenting people, but am open anyone else across the gender spectrum. I am not looking to jump in to anything too fast. I tend to be someone who takes things slow. I have met people on Reddit who I would call friends and have enjoyed talking with people both on Reddit and moving to other platforms like Discord. However, with the right person I am open to romance and filtration.

If any of this sounds compelling and you are similar in age range to me (29-41 feels about right, but I could be convinced to talk outside that range if they made a compelling case), feel free to message me.