For me it's my personality. I've been told by multiple people that I'm not ugly so I'll take their word for it I guess. It's my personality, specifically deep rooted aspect of myself that I either can't change or am not interested in changing. I have social anxiety. I'm feminine. I'm submissive. Also I'm potentially autistic. Having these traits as a man (who prefers women) is the terrible. Men are expected to approach, be confident, make her laugh. Well I can't do that because I'm socially anxious which leads to me being socially awkward. Best I can do is make her laugh from discomfort. Men are expected to be manly, leading, assertive, pretty much everything that I'm not. Most women want men not sissies so I understandably get friend zoned more often than not.

The only reasonable improvement I can do is work on my social anxiety. Even then I have such little self esteem and no hope that I doubt a woman would ever love me even if I'm able to talk to them in person. I'm going to perpetually be seen as "bestieee" and "brother" to them lmao

So what's going on with you guys? Quite curious.