One reason as to why people are able to get into relationships is they have the confidence in themselves to ask people out and aren’t afraid of getting told no. They’ll keep trying even after facing rejection. But I never had that confidence before and I’m not sure if I’ll ever will either. To make matters worse, my fears control my life and the choices I make. I know in order be confident and face my fears requires self work but at my age, I’m just not sure if I really want to spend time, energy, effort in doing so. Like I probably need years (maybe decade) of self work in order to potentially see any results. But gosh to do the work with the hope that it’ll turn for the better. It’s a hard asking point. If I was 10 years younger then it’d be a better selling point. But now? It’s tough.