DISCLAIMER:

Some people seem to conflate an interest in CnC and the power dynamics that come with it with an actual desire to cause harm to a non-consenting person.

I do not, and have no desire for any non-consensual happenings.

There are also a lot of people who claim that they want CnC, but then don't do any of the necessary safety prep to ensure that everyone is safe and happy in the scenario.

If you are not willing to give a kink as potentially harmful and extreme as roleplay rape and consensual nonconsent, then I am not the dom for you.

Here's a little about me:

I value informed and enthusiastic consent.

I value the person who is trusting me to do right by them when they are at their most vulnerable.

I may act maliciously, and speak as though I have no regard for you, or your limits. It's all just that: an act. It's a switch that I can flip at any given moment. I'm always in control of myself- even if the scenario seems like it's getting out of hand.

I've always been the kind of person who seeks out new experiences and sensations all the time.

New people to talk to, new places to see, new tastes, and sights, and smells.

When it comes to sex, however, I would say that I treat it as a way to deeper understand the people I know and interact with. To me, sex hinges on our abilities to let go. To stop thinking. To let the world melt away while myself and my partner experience one another in the most intimate way that I can think of.

I'm very "service-oriented" in my dominance. I like to fill the exact role that my submissive needs from me. If you need Daddy, then you get him. If you need cruelty, then you will receive it. If you want to be objectified and abused, then I will happily do so.

It all depends on our negotiations.

But enough of that! You're here for the sexy stuff, not my kinky philosophy.

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When you met him, the sparks flew. He was everything you wanted, and all that you needed in order to be happy. He was kind, warm, attentive, and always willing to talk things out if there was a problem that needed to be handled.

In the bedroom, he was adventurous and exciting. Sometimes, he would take you in the kitchen while you prepared dinner, or sweep you off of your feet and carry you to where he wanted you. If you were ever showing without him, he couldn't help but stare, or touch. Maybe he'd even risk being late to work because he couldn't contain himself.

But that was ages ago, wasn't it?

Now, he's stuck working late hours and is too tired to attend to your needs when he gets home. He comments on your appearance, but gives you no more than the odd slap on the ass, or kiss on the neck. Sex during the week is a distant memory, and he'd rather sleep in on weekends.

You know that he says he loves you, and still looks at you the way he did before, but he's still distant. He may spend more time out with work buddies than he spends with you. He could be too stressed about a project to focus.

Regardless of the reasons: you're unfulfilled, and looking for a way to have your cake and eat it too.

You start reading more erotic fiction with your favorite vibrator. Eventually, the fiction isn't enough; so you escalate to erotic role-play.

Suddenly, after only posting a cropped photo of yourself, you have the attention that you've desperately sought. Your inbox is full of messages from those who do nothing but praise you, or go into intimate detail about what they would do if they had you all to themselves.

They call you the names that he refuses to. They tell you how they'd not be able to contain their lust if they ever came home to you.

You love it, but it isn't enough.

You love him, but can't go on waiting for him to realize what he has with you.

That's where I come in.

We message back and forth for a little while, and you realize that I have many of the qualities that you've been looking for in a prospective liaison.

You agree to meet me for coffee, and we are more compatible than you first thought. We smile, we laugh, and we enjoy one another's company, but you're still not ready to make the leap. It's okay, though. I'm patient.

Eventually, we skip the coffee dates and you agree to meet me at my place. I open the door and you step in. We embrace, and then, for the first time, I hold you close and press my lips to yours.

You stiffen, then melt into me. You lose yourself for a moment, but are snapped back into reality by a pang of guilt and shame in your chest.

You can't do this to him. He loves you, and you can't betray that love like this. You can't take advantage of his trust by being with me.

So you begin to pull away, but my grip on you remains firm. You attempt to explain, but I refuse to listen. I grope you, and you try to push my hands away.

In a panic, you struggle more, but that only makes me escalate. A hand grips your throat, and holds you against the wall while the other explores what it can. Then, when I finally manage to slide my hand into your pants, or up your skirt, I realize, despite your struggling, just how wet you are.

I smile at you, lean in, and brush my lips against your earlobe before I say, "The decision isn't yours to make anymore. I've decided that I'm going to have you. The only choice you have is how forcefully I use you. If you're a good girl and do as you're told, then I'll treat you gently."

My grip on your throat tightens for a moment, "But if you really think that you can fight me off, then I'll have no choice but to make you behave."

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I know that this was a lot to read, but I try to take a kink with so much potential for danger very seriously.

If you're curious:

My ever expanding list of kinks includes: CnC/Ravishment, throat fucking, forced bi, face slapping, spanking, forced orgasms, multiple orgasms, anal training, collars, mental conditioning, bruises, choking, takedown play, rope/ribbon bondage, free use, pet training, and (my personal favorite) breeding/creampies.

I'll leave you with a few questions:

What do you want the most in a potential relationship? (Play partners, short term, long term, etc)

What kind of dominance best fits your flavor of submission? (Domineering, doting, daddy, etc.)

What are your hard/soft limits?

What is it about your role that you enjoy the most, and how can I facilitate scenarios that satisfy both of our wants and needs?

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If you're a visual person, then please don't hesitate to check out this little gallery It contains photos of myself, and how I've enjoyed spending my time. I hope that you like what you see!

Thank you for taking the time to read this ad. I hope to hear from you soon!

• Leon