What’s the difference between the “nice guy” and the “bad boy?”

It’s simple.

The “nice guy” says things that are “safe” in order to please her. He agrees with her hoping that “she will like him.” But what he really ends up doing is just boring the shit out of her.

The “bad boy” challenges her. He doesn’t agree with whatever she says, hoping that “she will like him.” He understands that when creating INTENSE SEXUAL ATTRACTION, there is one behavior which trumps all the rest.

And that is being: PLAYFULLY CHALLENGING.

Challenging Her Creates Interest

When you challenge someone, it makes that person want to “prove something to you.” It makes them want to “prove you wrong” or “show you up” or show you that “they can do it.”

It’s a knee-jerk reaction. The person being challenged has a kind of: “how dare you,” response. How dare you think that I can’t do something or can’t achieve something. And they instantly want to prove you otherwise.

Wanting to prove something or counter what the challenger is saying: IS INTEREST. If you had no interest at all, then there would be no knee-jerk reaction to respond.

So when a girl is starting to become attracted to you, and then you challenge her, it creates a subconscious reaction respond. That is interest.

You create interest in yourself simply through the act of challenging.

Challenging Her Demonstrates Authority

Think about the people who have challenged you in your life. Maybe it was a teacher, a coach, an older sibling, whatever.

When they challenged you, it created the knee-jerk reaction to prove them wrong. But was it simply “the challenge itself”, or was it the AUTHORITY of the person giving the challenge that got you to respond?

The answer is: it was that person’s authority.

You’ve heard 1,000 times that when it comes to attracting girls: it’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it.

Well, in addition to that: it’s not what’s being said, it’s WHO IS SAYING IT.

If you’re challenged by the guy with the bad haircut who’s bagging your groceries, you don’t care. You’re not interested. Because his authority is low relative to yours.

But when you’re challenged by someone who has a “higher authority” than you, that’s when you feel compelled to respond. Which means “you’re interested” in the challenger.

Here’s the thing when it comes to attracting girls: authority is demonstrated simply by the act of challenging. After all, if you are comfortable challenging her, it subcommunicates that you must be an authority with women (i.e. you have a lot of experience with women).

Challenging Demonstrates Confidence & Higher Social Status

If someone agrees with you and says things that are “safe” around you, what do you subconsciously conclude about their social status, relative to yours?

Their status is lower. In social situations, people with higher social status challenge people with lower social status. Not the other way around.

Therefore if you don’t challenge, you are demonstrating that her social status is above yours (you are putting her on the pedestal).

Alternatively, if you challenge her, it demonstrates the confidence that comes with a superior social status. It subconsciously projects that you consider yourself to be higher in social status than her.

That’s WHAT SHE WANTS, by the way.

Nobody wants to pursue someone who is of “lower status” than them. Think about it. Do you want to pursue women that you “know you can get? – like plain-Jane 5s and 6s??” Or do you want to pursue women who seem “challenging to get?”

Challenging Her Creates SEXUAL TENSION

Being challenged creates tension. Being challenged by someone you find attractive creates sexual tension. And sexual tension (all of those pent-up sexual emotions that make her want to tear your clothes off) is what’s required for her to chase you.

Unfortunately, creating tension is one of the biggest fears that causes guys to say things that are “safe” and to agree with everything she says. After all, if you just agree, there’s no tension. If you play it safe, there’s no tension.

Remember this: Lack Of Sexual Tension = Boredom = Jacking Off = You Reading Reddit Trying To Figure Out Where You Went Wrong.

How To Challenge – Examples:

Here are some simple examples of how to create sexual tension in very common conversational situations.

For every one of these examples, you are saying this: PLAYFULLY, with a SMIRK, as a HALF-JOKE, with a woman where the attraction is already building. You are not saying this and being serious. You are not saying this as your opening line to a woman you don’t now. If you read these examples and you’re hearing the tone as “serious,” then you are missing the point entirely.

Once you drop the challenge, pause for 1 or 2 beats, hold the smirk, she will give you the look that says: “I just got challenged.” Then you tell her you’re just messing around and move on.

1. She’s talking about any kind of goal or something she’s trying to achieve. In this example you’re challenging her that: maybe she’s not good enough to make it.

Her: “There are 7 other candidates, but I feel pretty confident.”

You: “You think you got what it takes to make it?”

Her: “What, you don’t think so?”

You: “I’m not sure [skeptical look], I don’t know you well enough yet.”

Her: [Looks at you like she just got teased]

You: “I’m totally messing with you. I’m sure your chances are great.”

2. She’s talking about something she’s accomplished in the past. **In this example you are challenging her that:**regardless of what she accomplished, it could have been better.

Her: “So after three try-outs I finally got accepted to the team?You: “That’s all?”

Her: “What do you mean?”You: “Just part of the team? How come you didn’t become the leader?”

Her: [Looks at you like she just got teased]

You: “I’m totally messing with you. That’s awesome that you made the team.”

3. You’re talking about something you do, with the implication that she can’t do it.

You: “Yeah we’re taking a couple quads up to the mountains to off-road this weekend.”

Her: “That sounds like fun.”

You: “It is…but I’m not sure you’d be able to handle it.”

Her: “You don’t think I can drive a quad.”

You: “Hmmm…no. You’re too small.”

Her: [Looks at you like she just got teased]

You: “I’m just kidding. You’re the perfect size to be the second passenger.”

Her: [She punches you in the shoulder]

You: “I’m just messing with you. You should come.”

These examples can be applied in any conversation. There will always be something that she is either (1) trying to accomplish, (2) has accomplished or (3) is something you can playfully imply she “can’t do.”

This is one component of making your conversations interesting. This is a difference between “nice guys” who make women bored and “bad boys” who are exciting, interesting and CHALLENGING.

Because again, “bad boy” doesn’t mean being an asshole. It means being totally comfortable challenging her since (1) you’re not fucking scared and (2) because you’re not trying to “say the right things so she’ll like you.”

When you “try to say the right things” she tells you that you’re a “great guy” and then goes over to some other dude’s house and bangs him.

Successfully Challenging Her Means: You Must Be Challenging YOURSELF First

Have you started approaching or are you still too scared?

Are you opening her confidently or weakly?

Are you letting life pass you by or are you going for the girls that you want?

Are you pushing your comfort zone every day, or are you sitting around jacking off?

If you’re not challenging yourself, then forget about challenging her. As with everything else in attraction. Start with yourself. Focus on yourself. Challenge yourself.

Once you start challenging yourself regularly and frequently, challenging her will be really easy.

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