Ok, so this may sound weird, but....

44m in a loving, wonderful, fulfilling relationship with a 45f. Married 20 years. 4 kids. It's great. Kids are growing up and starting to move on. 2 have moved out. The other two are pretty self sufficient.

So now the wife and I have more time on our hands. And after 20 years, we want to go out and do the things we missed out on being younger with kids. We have decided to explore our kinks. Pineapples, cuckcakes, stags and vixens.... you get the idea.

Problem is, she was my first. And so far my only. And when we met, I was young and innocent and awkward. But at 20 that was part of my charm and appeal.

But now, I'm well past that point, and I've been out of the game for so long, on top of not really knowing how to play in the first place, I don't really know how or where to begin.

I am not sure I know how to approach and talk to another woman who isn't my wife. I know I'm attractive and that women look at me. But, I have this mind set that, I'm married and that makes me a creep. I keep telling myself, it's ok and it's what she wants me to do, I'm worried what the other women will think or say or do, and how to even approach it, being married, how do I tell them that and it not be a deal breaker?

I don't know. Maybe I'm too much in my head. But, I'm not sure where to begin or how to approach and then flirt with other women.