Alright here we go. I don’t want to spill too much info incase someone I know finds this. But I(29m) recently joined this friend group in the last month or two. There is this amazing wonderful woman (30f) that is in the group. Now from the moment I met her I’ve been slowly developing a crush on her. We hang out in our friends group anywhere from 1-3 times a week. Or we see each other in a different group setting somewhere else in our city.

Over the times we spent together we’ve had many conversations, we have a lot in common, and we’ve even discussed some very personal things/issues about our lives. Lately though it’s been harder to get time to talk to her. Idk if she is “pulling away” or “playing hard to get” or what, but it feels like she’s been distracted or distant the last few times we’ve all gotten together. I did learn that someone else in our friendship group has feelings for her and they try to capitalize a lot of her time.

Idk if she’s flirting with me though or just being nice(because like I said “wonderful woman”). But she is always smiling at me, she makes eye contact with me, not only when talking to me but, when talking to other people she glances over to me, and from across the room she looks over at me.

Here’s where it gets complicated though. Neither of us are really relationship oriented/experienced. I’ve never been in a relationship. I’ve never really flirted or “picked up” a woman, or anything. I’ve gone out on dates with a couple of women from dating apps. That’s wasn’t until I was in my late twenties. So this is completely new territory for me, and it is terrifying. She hasn’t dated in like 5 years and I’m pretty sure she’s not even looking at dating or anything. But we’ve talked about dating and relationships. She always tells me there’s hope for me, I tell her if there’s hope for me then there’s hope for her. So we’ve got this little back and forth thing. Idk. Idk. I’m just all kinds of confused and going crazy. I think about her a lot and I don’t know what to do.

The more I get to know her the more I can see her being a fit for me. I think maybe she is attracted to me but I just don’t know and can’t tell.