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I recently found out I have multiple fibroids and had my first visit with an Obgyn today.
I want to cry, I want to have kids and this doctor just keeps pushing I may need a hysterectomy. She did say I could do a myomectomy but they come back.
Also didnāt like the fact she made it seem black people have these wild growth fibroids that are uncontrollable. She kept emphasizing during my visit how black women have aggressive fibroids compared to white women which is simply not true.
I feel like crap, I want kids and am tired of the butchering of women by medical professionals.
Edit: Thank you to everyone who posted. I truly appreciate your support. For more context, I did get an ultrasound and a vaginal ultrasound done while there. I ended up informing the woman who did the ultrasound of what transpired. She was incredibly empathetic but stated āthe doctor has black kids and isnāt racistā. I let her know people can still have biases even if they have interracial families.
I did end up breaking down while there and the doctor apologized for what she said. I still plan on seeing someone else, as during the ultrasound they found 2 or 3 fibroids (ultrasound said 2, doctor said 3 so unsure) on the fundus of my uterus and the back of it. The back one is causing constipation issues.
I am sorry that this happened to you. This is your body. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
You are right. Black women are routinely mistreated by medical professionals. But, you are paying her for a service. If she is not providing the service you want, pay somebody else. You are in control.
We shouldn't have to fight to get care, but we do. And that sucks. You deserved better than that.
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This isn't quite true.
I used relaxers for almost 20 years. I started in middle school, transitioning out of my jheri curl, another likely chemically damaging process that I did for years in elementary school.
I didn't have fibroids until 7 years after I stopped.
I agree that we should stop using relaxers. I am surprised that they are still legal in the US and sold in stores.
However, the damage is there and stays there after you stop.
Stopping can prevent more damage to your hormonal makeup. But, it doesn't do anything about the damage that is already there. And the damage that is already there is at least partially responsible for producing the fibroids.
I am 40 and am getting a myomectomy. However, I expect that in a few years they will be back. Once I hit my late 40s, my motivation of preserving fertility won't be a factor. I expect I will eventually end up with a hysterectomy.