So I moved into my dad's in the deep south to attend college, and I get along with them for the most part. I overall really enjoy being here. But it sucks having to hear sexist or homophobic things sometimes, and once in a while he says something that really, REALLY strikes a nerve.

Except for my dad's bigotry, which really crawls under my skin. I'm 23 now and I don't keep my disagreement to myself, because I can't stand injustice. If I hear something homophobic or sexist, I just have to say something. I respect him, but I get so offended by some of the stuff he says. He's very religious, homophobic, and traditional (but still a good man) and I'm a feminist and bisexual (of course I wouldn't come out about it).

And he always discredits my arguments by saying that I was brainwashed by the Californian education system (which isn't true).

So.. when dealing with loved ones who say very offensive, disappointing things, how do you not get emotional about it and start an argument? It upsets me more that one of the most important people in my life believes in things.