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I 16M have noticed that one big talking point than men like to use when talking about male loneliness is that they feel as if they cant show their emotions around women in fear of being ostracized or judged but I feel as if this is kind of stupid as the context of why men dont show emotions is because (this is just from what I’ve seen) is that they believe showing emotions is feminine and since they are mysogynistic they believe doing anything feminine makes them inferior as men so I believe that most of them bottle up their emotions due to their mysogyny and therefore I believe that their mysogyny has led them to be lonely. Or am I looking into this too much?
Anecdotes I wanted to add:
Broke up with a guy back when I was 17, he was a few years older. It was emotional and we were both crying at his place. Eventually I said I was leaving, wanting to give him space. He was shocked, expressing disbelief. Why wouldn‘t I stay to comfort him?
Guys repeatedly sharing their emotions (e.g. anger directed towards me) in the most callous and hurtful way. Sooner or later I‘d tell them that I was hurt. The most frequent response was along the lines of a huffy ‚well if that wasn‘t right then I guess I‘ll never tell you anything again, ever!‘ and.. oh boy.
So yea. Expressing emotion is great, but it‘s just a piece of a bigger picture.
I do feel like there is a growing issue of loneliness, though I don‘t think it‘s gendered. I think it is but a symptom of living under the pressures of neoliberalism / late stage capitalism.
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Anecdotes I wanted to add:
Broke up with a guy back when I was 17, he was a few years older. It was emotional and we were both crying at his place. Eventually I said I was leaving, wanting to give him space. He was shocked, expressing disbelief. Why wouldn‘t I stay to comfort him?
Guys repeatedly sharing their emotions (e.g. anger directed towards me) in the most callous and hurtful way. Sooner or later I‘d tell them that I was hurt. The most frequent response was along the lines of a huffy ‚well if that wasn‘t right then I guess I‘ll never tell you anything again, ever!‘ and.. oh boy.
So yea. Expressing emotion is great, but it‘s just a piece of a bigger picture.
I do feel like there is a growing issue of loneliness, though I don‘t think it‘s gendered. I think it is but a symptom of living under the pressures of neoliberalism / late stage capitalism.