Hi there. I am a masculine and muscular chastity sub. I am seeking a mostly normal relationship with a mostly normal woman. I am a very normal guy, with very abnormal interests. Along with very normal interests as well. I seek a like minded woman. I call myself submissive because I have no interest in dominating a woman or being in charge in the relationship. I call myself submissive because I love chastity.

But I do not look or act like a typical submissive. I appear more like a dominant than a submissive. If I wanted a traditional "man of the house" type of relationship, I would have more options than I knew what to do with. My ideal relationship is committed, and long term. Real time, face to face, in person relationship. Very monogamous.

My ideal kink relationship is realistic. Has nothing in common with what is portrayed online and in porn. Just two real people playing in a way that is fun, rewarding and fulfilling for both.

Kink when the mood strikes, vanilla filling in all the gaps between kink. A collaboration. While deferring final say to my partner in vanilla life. But 100% submissive in kink. And chastity woven into the relationship 24/7. You will always have the only say on when the cage comes off, IF the cage comes off. And how long in-between unlocking.

I would love to meet someone who absolutely relishes that control. Who is perfectly comfortable being a cruel keyholder when the mood strikes. Just as she is fun loving or teasing. A strong, confident woman who is comfortable with her control and doesn't allow herself to feel guilty about getting what she wants. This is why it is so important, and been so difficult, to find someone who matches wants and interests closely. If you want to take what I want to give, we should talk.

I have many vanilla interests, movies, museums, etc. Physical activities, biking, hiking, tennis, racquetball, gym, etc. Am very open and easy going. I lift weights 3 times a week, eat healthy most of the time, zero drugs, drink very rarely. Not fanatical, but reasonable.

Kink interests are just as varied. But I do have that special interest in chastity. I seek someone who enjoys having that control as much as I enjoy giving it up. Chastity is only fun for me if it is fun for you. I have several stainless steel devices, and am secured with a pa piercing. When you hold the key, you have total control. I seek someone who appreciates my level of commitment. Takes advantage of it even. But most importantly, has fun with it. I am a moderate masochist, not extreme. I enjoy variety. Strict play, sensual play, teasing play. Light play, and at times have my limits tested. Bondage, impact play, cbt, etc. Variety. I love being denied orgasms while forced to give them. Don't ask me why, I just do. I love the dichotomy of being in discomfort while my partner demands pleasure for herself. Don't ask me why, I just do. I seek someone who enjoys that control. I don't want someone who accepts that control. I want someone who finds that control rewarding.

I am entirely comfortable with my desires. I don't require aftercare. I'm not using kink as an outlet for emotional problems. I am very stable emotionally. I don't need to be punished because that is all I deserve. I don't care for humiliation, or degradation. I prefer play to be uplifting. I prefer fun. So should you. Kink is not my therapy. I just truly enjoy a strong, confident woman. Some like to cook, some like to eat. Put those two together and you have a mutually beneficial situation. I like the bottom, and I seek someone who likes the top. Mutually beneficial.

I am very functional and very sexual. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I love the control, and a woman who loves that control. I am well versed in short term and long term denial. I am prepared for whatever you decide or desire. For me, denial is not denial. It is extended anticipation, and extended arousal. I know some do not handle those well. I do. It is something I love. If you are sexually selfish,  without any guilt, we should talk. More so if you have fun with it. Fun is the recurring theme. As is mutually beneficial.

I am intelligent, creative and have a great sense of humor and a quick wit. Am successful and have everything but someone to share life with. I'm not looking for a financial arrangement. I'm looking for a relationship.

I'm not a slave, not a sissy, not worthless, and not a loser. And not a cuckold, I am very monogamous. I am not weak. I choose submission. It is not my default. Nor is dominance. The right woman will spark my submission.

I am not desperate, I'm not willing to compromise and have no interest in someone who would compromise for me. I am not interested in any kind of arrangement, only a real relationship.

If our interests don't align, I will respect your choice, as I would hope you would respect mine. I will never pursue anyone that is not a potential partner. So feel free to engage without risk or pressure.

I am a quality person, my wish is to improve someone's life, not complicate it. I am not needy. Don't require constant attention. Don't require micro management. I do my best to be more fun than trouble.

I have a house in Palm Springs and a house in Big Bear Lake. I split my time between them based on the weather. So I don't have to deal with extreme heat or extreme snow. Best of both worlds.

Until there is some commitment or understanding, I will speak to you not as a sub. Just a regular guy. Don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions or need clarification.