Hi, I am a masculine and muscular chastity sub in Southern California. I am realistic sub male. Seeking a realistic dominant woman. I am not a sissy, not a slave, not beta. Not interested in any of the unrealistic porn depictions of this lifestyle. Definitely not a worthless sub. Why would you want a worthless sub anyway? I strive to be the exact opposite, a sub that you value. I choose submission because I love making my partner happy, not because I am weak. If my partner is happy, I am happy. I choose submission because a strong woman who knows what she wants, and does not apologize for that, is extremely exciting. My submissive side is not automatic, it requires inspiration. I am seeking that woman who inspires it. I am intelligent, creative, witty and have a great sense of humor. I am very monogamous, somewhat old fashioned. I am successful but not gullible. I enjoy a good life, but don't have someone to share it with. I ideally would love a committed long term relationship. I am a moderate masochist, not extreme. But I do like to be tested and pushed. A very normal guy with abnormal interests. I love the dichotomy of being in pain or discomfort while pleasing my partner and left wanting and frustrated while my partner is satiated. As mentioned, I am looking for a strong woman, dominant, but not porn cliche dominant. Someone who's mood can vary from somewhat sadistic to sweet. Someone who prefers to switch gears, rather than be in character 24/7. Someone who can enjoy a regular relationship outside of play, as much as she enjoys play. A dual personality of sorts. Scare me at 6pm and cuddle at 10pm. I love chastity. I have several stainless steel devices and am secured with a pa piercing. I am seeking someone who enjoys that control as much as I enjoy being controlled. BDSM isn't realistic 24/7. But 24/7 chastity is very realistic. I am very functional and very sexual. My interest is in the control. But it has to be fun for both. I will never be with someone who will do something for my benefit. I truly enjoy prioritizing my partner's pleasure. But it is more exciting if she is rather selfish with pleasure. And even more exciting if she incorporates the pleasure imbalance into day to day conversations as well as play. I have a love/hate relationship with the frustration, but I absolutely love the anticipation and arousal. And I love the control my partner has when she says "not today." Or, not this week, or this month. Depending on the length of denial she has decided on. I have experience with long term and short term denial and am prepared for whatever my partner desires. I seek someone who dictates the particulars. You tell me what you expect, what you enjoy, what activities or kinks you enjoy, and I'll choose to accept or not. Then it is up to me to accept the terms or not. I am seeking a dominant. I want someone to serve. As mentioned, I do like to be tested sometimes. I do like to explore. Get out of the comfort zone now and then. Life lived fully in the comfort zone is pretty boring. I prefer to map out hard boundaries and limits ahead of time. Negotiate soft boundaries and limits. And then submit. Not exactly CNC, but sort of. I don't wish to dictate play, or have much control from the bottom. Only if hard limits are violated. My wish is to submit, go where my partner guides me.

Let me know if you have any questions.