Hi my name is Monica I'm a dom

So I usually get some people that send me some questionable first messages and I would like to have the time to explain to new people but sometimes I can't give them the benefit of the doubt. The day is only 24 hours

So I want to make a post that a can share when this happens.

What not to send a dom in a first message *Don't call us by a title (miss, mistress, mommy, good) ask for our name, or use the name that was in the post, is like normal dating you don't call new people "hi wife" is weird.

*Don't send pictures unless asked, don't send pictures of your dick, body, or face.

*Respond to the questions that were given if you are replying to an ad for example in femdompersonals

*We enjoy kink but we also do other things if you are looking to create a bond that is not purely sexual you need to talk about topics outside of BDSM.

Education If you are just starting my best recommendation is to watch Evie Lupine on Youtube she is a BDSM educator that has lots of 101 videos on different things and even in the vocabulary.

Start small example let's say you have always dreamed of someone telling you how small/worthless/ you are, but you have never played you ask for this at the begging of your journey and then after the scene, you drop you feel so sad it was too much.

You have to build yourself up to playing hard if that is what you want, psychological play can be as hard or harder than playing with physical pain, so take it easy on yourself till you know you can take it or have a plan if something goes wrong. If you are into humiliation please read: Enough to make you blush: erotic humiliation by Princess Kali ( if you are not read it it has some great tips on playing and safety )

There are so many ways to be a dom, sub, or switch do what you want and use the titles that make you feel good side note you can have as many as you like. You can be a brat and a good submissive anyone who tells you otherwise is fucking dumb.

Lastly, there is nothing wrong with your desires, whatever makes you horny is okay, you didn't choose your desires. Don't try to overthink it too much, you are not crazy or evil or dirty ( unless that is your kink haha).

Safety * Have safewords, aftercare plans, and emergency plans, and take your time, and use quality lube if possible, you never have to do x to be a good boy that is just dumb everyone has limits and boundaries ( if you don't know what any of these words search in Evie lupine YouTube )

Hope everyone has a great day.