My partner (f) and I (m) have been going to kink and sex parties in the NYC area for about 15 years. The vast majority have a male dom vibe, a few are mostly male-dom with a handful of dommes in attendance, but primarily femdom parties seem to be exceedingly rare. We’ve been to a couple “femdom” parties we found on fetlife but they were small and most people were standing around talking, unlike the regular BDSM parties where most people are actually engaged in kink play. I’d like to find a party/event where I can walk around in cuffs, collar and cage, and be among like-minded folks, but after years of searching (locally), we haven’t found such a place. Are we looking in the wrong place? Or does that vibe just hold less appeal than it does for couples with a male dom/fem sub dynamic? I’d love some ideas/recommendations, willing to travel anywhere between, say, NYC and Boston