Hello everyone,

First of all I‘m sorry if I don‘t use the right terms, as I‘m just a lurker and not that proficient in this whole topic.

I‘m (F) in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend and one day he proposed to me that he likes femdom and being dominated in the bedroom. I for myself was excited about this and he explained to me what it means to him and I listened to him explaining the things he would like to try. I processed everything and really wanted to give it a try.

I started looking up things, trying out things and figuring out things that would meet his needs in the bedroom. I liked to surprise him with ideas that he never thought of. I really wanted to fulfill his needs but one day the interest in femdom slowly decreased and the „femdom sessions“ in the bedroom started to feel like a chore to me.

Don‘t get me wrong I really enjoyed giving him what he needs. It made me happy seeing him happy. But the thing is and that is what I think the main problem here is that he likes me to initiate it. I understand that this gives him a moment of surprise and anticipation but for most of the time I have so much on my mind that I „forget“ that „I have to“ give him his „kinky-time“ in the bedroom. (Sorry for this wording idk how I should explain it otherwise.) And if he doesn‘t initiate anything I do it once a fullmoon.

And this now leads up to this day, where I haven‘t given him a proper session in months and I feel like garbage because I really love him and would do the world for him. But this topic is so hard to get into and stay in it if you don‘t do it regularly.

Some things that are good to know: * His needs for femdom are limited to the bedroom. * We were talking regularly about femdom and we communicate openly but in the last 9 months we haven‘t really discussed anything about it directly because there was so much going on in our lives. I want to talk to him about it in the next few hours/days to get things sorted but I figured I should ask this subreddit how I can stay motivated or get some help in general. * He doesn‘t force me to do anything, everything is with consent and I like femdom. * He meets my needs in the bedroom with having vanilla sex with me regularly.

What I currently have in mind is maybe setting a day in the week where I will always take my time for femdom (e.g. Friday afternoon).

I‘m really looking forward to getting some advice and I am grateful for taking your time reading this and writing an answer.

Thank you really much.