So my wife and I have been dabbling in chastity of and on for the last year or so. At first she wasn’t overly excited but played along for me, but she would rarely let me go more than a few days without being a release. I always found this difficult because for me days 3-4 are the most difficult to get through. All I want and can think about at that point is getting a release and since she was consistently giving me a release around that 3rd-4th day it was like I was stuck in this phase of being super frustrated instead of giving total submission to her.

More recently she has really taken to this lifestyle and has fully embraced her dominance over me and we both desire a strict FLR with D/s dynamic. She is all about enforced chastity and I stay locked 24hrs/day with the exception of a quick removal for cleaning in the shower and when she desires to play. It’s day 7 now and the anxiety and constant desire for release that I feel around day 3-4 has subsided quite a bit. 99% of the day I do as I’m told and am happy to serve her. The 1% is what’s getting us.

When I first wake up I’m really horny and always like to rub on and fondle my wife. She’s not really a morning person so this usually is met with her pulling away from me and ignoring me. I am expected to give her a kiss and tell her goodbye before leaving for work. But when my feelings are being hurt from the rejection I get upset and selfish and sometimes I’ll just say I love you to her without the kiss. This upsets her very much and causes issues. I want to totally submit to her and not feel hurt when things don’t go my way. From what I understand there is a phase in the beginning of a lockup that the anxiety and horniness are peaked but once you get past that phase that you are able to reach a state of total submission.

So my question is how long does it take you all to reach the total submission phase? Do ruined orgasms and unlocks make this take longer? I have had a couple ruins but haven’t had a full release in a week. I just want to reach that place of total submission to my Queen. Any and all advice is appreciated.