Seriously, a good amount of the posts here are men are them trying to get their girlfriends and wives to become their personal porn stars, or women who've been pressured and are trying to get advice on how to "do it right."

So what does any of this have to do with femdom? These self-proclaimed submissive men never stop to think or ask what she truly wants, and if they do something for her, it's to make her feel indebted so she'll relent to their endless bucket list of kinks. The funniest thing is that the man usually mentions their partner doesn't seek out these interactions and is uninterested, so what do they do? They push her even more! This goes beyond topping from the bottom, but almost borders into coercion especially if they're already married. There's (usually) an inherent desire for someone to want to please their spouse, even if the activities make them highly uncomfortable.

What if she doesn't want to micromanage you and edge you for 5 hours a day? What if she wants vanilla? What if she wants you to be the active partner while she gets all the pleasure? If those things truly please her and you're so subby, why isn't that enough? It just boggles the mind that even in a femdom community, you still have to see women's desires ignored and disregarded.