Honestly, I don’t get why I see so many men posting about this so often. They complain that it’s impossible to meet women interested in femdom. The problem isn’t the imbalance in the ratio of women to men that isn’t making any “matches” possible.

It’s the fact that any time (in my experience and of many other women I’ve spoke to) that a woman posts about femdom, it’s an onslaught of messages from men dumping their kinks on you. They don’t want to talk about you, get to know you, it’s all about bombing you with sexual baggage. “Will you do this? Will you do that? What if you do this to me?” And it’s all about them. Not, “what do you like, what are you into?”.

And of course, my posts are always clear that whenever I speak to someone, I don’t want to go into any sexual topics off the bat. That’s not what I want to do with a stranger online and I’m not looking for someone to sext with.

I don’t want to generalize. But it’s been extremely hard for me to date because of my sexual preferences. And I want a full relationship - But every time I mention I am into femdom, people try to reduce me to only that aspect and trying to exploit my preferences to fulfill their fantasies.

This has happened across numerous platforms. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I don’t know if I’m attracting the wrong people due to me doing something specific. But when it comes to getting to know someone, go on a date, give them a phone call, it’s all shut down because all they seem to selfishly want is a woman to dump their baggage on and use as a kink dispenser to fulfill their fantasies in the most objectifying way.

Is there any hope?