So finally making the transition from online play to in person play since the online stuff stopped satisfying me and now thrust into the whole sexual in person dating world for the first time. It’s very new and very different to day the least, as all of my sexual experience have been with partners and/or long term friends plus been more of serious long term dater. I’ve never really approached men with such a strong sexual intent and casualness (?) before and now having trouble navigating.

I know what I want and want to cut to the chase about it. I know I don’t want to be anyone’s GFD girlfriend or girlfriend period but not really a let’s jump in as a strangers and do serious scene type either. Been looking for a FWB but genuinely mean it? Cause as much I like degrading and abusing men I value getting to know the person I’m playing with and appreciate enjoying their company in nonsexual context both for chemistry/safety reasons. Despite being clear online attracted a fair share of guys immediately looking to hook up, flakes, or just overwhelming number of men who are just not what I’m looking for. Is it more of numbers and time game? Should I change my strategy and look more in person than online? Dommes of the sub what has your dating experience?

It shouldn’t be this hard to have some kinky, satisfying and safe sex. 🤧

TLDR: So asking the dommes of this subreddit how has your more sexual orientated dating gone? How did you meet your submissive if you have one? Did you have more success online or in person say at kink events or perhaps non-kink spaces? How long did it take for someone you deeply clicked? If not advice stories and solidarity appreciated cause I feel like I’m mining for a diamond in the rough.