I wanted to see if anybody had any insight or suggestions of how to maintain a FLR if the female is typically low libido, meaning they show low or no interest in sex sometimes? My fiance rarely thinks about sex and almost never initiates normally. I have typically been in control of the relationship and sex, but recently have been trying to be more submissive in the bedroom as well as household duties and things she requests in an effort to get her more into engaging in sex.

She has some interest but its more in a passive role where she likes me to say/list various things and she either says yes or no in a somewhat simple manner if she is interested in doing that. For example instead of sex sometimes she would rather opt for me giving her a massage which I am ok with occasionally, as a form of orgasm control, it's exciting to me; but she will not initiate for the life of me. If I offer to go down on her without reciprocation or even ask if she wants to put a chastity cage on me, she enthusiastically and usually says yes, but again I always have to offer to do this.

I am wondering what could I do different to peak her interest and initiate more? I am frustrated as I feel I'm doing things that clearly cater to a very low libido by passing up sex, even though I have a much higher sex drive, and I have succeed in deriving pleasure from this lack of sex, by leaning on femdom, yet I am not getting much active participation even though many of the activities are what she would rather be doing anyhow.