A couple of the people who replied to my personal are into findom and while it does sound interesting (I mean who doesn't like to feel pampered). I'm not really sure how that kind of relationship works.

 I am not into nor would I ever be into draining my partner out of their budget or untill they are unable to take care of themselves. I looked around a little bit and that seemed to be one of the biggest problems people were having.

People who do that make the community unwelcoming for finsubs looking for a real Dom sub relationship.

Sorry for my little rant and I hope I didn't come off as disrespectful if I did I apologize. If there is any advice anyone could give me it would most appreciated thank you.