I’ll preface this rant by saying I’m a very picky person when it comes to relationships so this may just be me overreacting. A while ago I made a post on r/femdompersonals (on a different account). Personally I think it was a really good post, with just the right amount of personality, detail, and effort. Now I know we all get dumb messages, from sexual one-liners to people who don’t pay attention to your boundaries, etc. Those actually aren’t the ones that annoy me. I just press ignore and move on.

What does annoy me is the seemingly kind and respectful people who just…blend into the crowd. I swear, almost every single message I’ve gotten has been some variation of “Hey! My name is X, I have (insert hair and eye color), I really like X, Y hobbies (99% of the time its video games and working out), and my kinks are X, Y, Z. Hope to hear from you soon!” Like okay…but what else? They all seem practically copy and pasted with a few tweaks here and there. It feels like I am reading the same exact message over and over again. No one really makes an effort to stand out or let their personality shine through. I’ve also noticed that when I do respond, majority of the carrying the conversation is on me. Lol.

Anyway, this isnt to yuck on r/femdompersonals, I do like that subreddit a lot and have actually had great success in the past (back when I was open to online/long distance and the “candidate pool” was wider). Wondering if these types of messages slightly annoy or dishearten others as well?