I’ve been going to munches and sloshes and even my first play party recently, but still have not been taken by the hand by a cute domme. Maybe it’s cuz i’m ftm and feminine, but all I get is dudes or girls that want me to top them. I’ve tried talking to the pros in my area but it really seems like they don’t know what to do with me because of gender (I’ve been told by two so far that they only top dudes and told by leaders of local groups/meetups that they are catered to male subs and to try my luck elsewhere). But like, where? Idk, I feel like I’m putting in so much effort just to be tossed aside for my lack of penis. I’m going to a very trans-friendly dungeon soon so hopefully I meet some gays there but if I don’t I may just give up on my local scene frfr and just go out only to support the friends i’ve made so far. It just sucks bc, damn it I wanna be topped and have fun too :(

Advice for other steps to take to meet new people welcomed ;-;