Hi all. I (M25) am hoping to get some advice on an issue I have noticed in all of my past relationships. That issue being I have only seemed to attract women who are submissive and have absolutely NO interest being the dominant partner in a relationship.

I consider myself an attractive guy, skinnier but toned, taller, with a beard. Im a relatively shy person but I also speak my mind and don’t have any issues being assertive so I’m not sure if that plays a role in me attracting more passive and submissive women. I’m also someone who prefers genuine connection and a relationship as opposed to todays hook up culture so I’ve never led with my desire to be the submissive partner and all that comes with it.

This has caused an issue for me in the long term though, as once these conversations come up my partners have shut it down. This is an important part of a relationship for me and I don’t want to waste time building up another relationship just for it come to a end once my desire to be the submissive partner is brought up. That said however, I also do not want to seem like a shallow person and bring up a sexual topic too soon in a relationship and risk offending someone.

Do any of the Doms out there have any advice for a guy who wants to find the partner?