Who has been around r/femdomcommunity for a while has read frequent complaints of Dommes complaining about men topping from the bottom. That these alleged "masochists" seem more interessted in satisfying their own desires rather than their partners. These are all very valid complaints which I assume come from real world experiences just like the experience of of Wanda von Sacher-Masoch who was the wife of Leopold Ritter von Sacher-Masoch, also known as the writer of venus in furs and the man masochism literally is named after.

Leopold von Sacher-Masoch's book Venus in Furs is the first and most famous femdom book of all time which describes the life of a masochist, inspired by the life of experiences of von Masoch himself. With Wanda being married with the original masochist it must seem her life must have been filled with servitude by her husband and reigning as a femdom queen right? Well according to her own memoirs her life living with Masoch was actually miserable because Masoch was obsessed with making her cuckold him with men of his choice and making her do sadist actions purely for his desire.

While the emotion of masochism predates von Masoch himself it seems the quintessential masochist of all time actually topped his wife from the bottom so hard she had to write the 20th century version of a reddit post about it. Which only shows how little things have actually changed. Is there a moral to this story? Well I dunno man learning this information is kinda bummed out so I'm curious what all of you think.