I am not opposed to some aspects of Financial Domination and feel like because of how much our capitalist society depends on money it's a great psychological kink. Control of money is control of everything. Access to food, healthcare, clothing, shelter is all money. One could argue that financial submission in a capitalist system is the deepest possible sort without being actually married but that's for another time.

I said all that to say I actually love the idea of financial control as part of a negotiated dynamic.

So the other day I get a PM (Reddit chat) after posting in a Findom subreddit. It's a newbie asking how to get started and this is REALLY common. In her first message she asked "What's Femdom?" and I directed her here as well as the more porn/general subreddit of /r/Femdom. The person in question then said "I'm only into financial domination" and when I tried to ask about it more what I got was "I want guys to send me money" but absolutely nothing else. This was a person who said "I am into findom, you have no idea" and yet couldn't actually event try to articulate in a greater context how they saw their role as a domme and the role of a sub and what both would enjoy.

So why am I tilted and ranting here?

Findom to me is an offshoot of mostly Femdom but more BDSM in general. It is a specific kink within the realm of BDSM and should be practiced with all regular BDSM precautions except it's not. Many of these girls are 18-20 with no actual interest in BDSM but just plain hard up for money.

Sorry for the rant but this latest one really broke me. How someone PM'ed with questions and then confronted with education of actual BDSM proceeded to shut down while also telling me they wanted this so much.

I guess if anything it sucks to see kinks and certain terms co-opted into being a hustle.