For those who go snooping on my profile or can tell from the context of this post, Yes this is largely about the personals side of reddit.

I know its kind of early for me to be saying anything about the state of ads and response times. Hell I only wrote mine less then a day ago. So I might get some more traction. But the sheer amount of lazy, and just straight up scammer type responses I have gotten made me very frustrated. A long time ago I actually met someone from the Femdom personals and things were okay over all. Parted on good terms I thought atleast and took a long time to sort of reflect and learn. Even through the stage where I was flatly rejecting being a sub... to the point where I was very loud about being in the opposite direction actually.
But so far all I've been getting is 'hey' or 'hi' and like nothing else. Any attempt to engage is like an exercise in frustration, they ask simple questions answered in my ads, or go 'do you want to be collared by this mistress then go to my OF' account. Hell sometimes they jus message that completely unprompted.
Its saddening to go sleep after I post the post, wake up to maybe eight or so reddit chats. And none of them follow any of the requests I made. So I just have to start clearing them out to hopefully make room for better examples.

I know part of it is also that you respond to ads as well, but to be honest I have gotten very shy about responding to those because I already know their inboxes are flooded with the first like two hours... I've seen it happen before. I do try and make myself stand out but I won't lie here its hard and I get really self conscious about myself and the 'competition' I am facing or I think I'm facing. I try my best to approach them as a person, wanting them to tell me more about their hobbies or such. But alot of the time I don't even have crickets (and there's a whole joke about why crickets is better then silence).

Sorry if this seems desperate I'm just really frustrated right now, the scene in my state is basically invite only and I feel like I burnt those bridges too when I called out some kind of bad practices in private and they revoked my invitations. And meeting girls in the bars and really just anywhere is proving to be a complete disaster for me because I do not handle IRL conversation with new people very well. Trip and stammer over words and sometimes don't know if their just being friendly or actually flirting with me.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk I suppose. Advice would be nice... I know alot of this is going to boil down to time and activly searching, just frustrated about it I suppose but I won't give up. I'll never give up... just feeling kinda discouraged rn I guess and worried I shot myself in the foot on this profile because for like three months there I was convinced I was a hard dom.