I (22M) have been exploring my kinky side for a few months now, and have had a fair few thoughts on male submission and female dominance. I haven’t always seen the allure of powerful women in control, growing up as a hetero cis man, but I went through a lot of change in high school which heavily involved feminism. I have a lot of feminist views and love being able to support women, but one thing that I’ve noticed in the past few months with my exploring is that pegging seems to be the standard for female dominance.

To be clear, I don’t think theres anything wrong with pegging and I’m not really opposed to it or anything, but why is it that using male genitalia is a sign of dominance in women? Maybe this is just male gaze, but it seems like a pretty common practice for dommes to peg a sub rather than use their own body to get him to submit. In my eyes, not only does it seem to me that pegging seems to be more for the mans/subs enjoyment, but I also feel like it implies that males are naturally meant to be dominant, being that strap ons are usually based on male genitalia.

I know everyone has their own preferences, and I’m sure a lot of dommes don’t like pegging, but I guess my question or questions to those who do are: why would you rather peg them than make them thrust into you until you’re satisfied, using your own feminine body to dominate over an artificial replica of a mans? Is it about humiliation? Or is it that you find satisfaction in taking the pleasure away from his dick to make him orgasm? Or do you have other reasons? And what do the feminists out there think? This has definitely been one of the things I’ve thought most about in terms of bdsm in general and would love to get some insight from the femme perspective! This is mainly for dommes as I’m not looking for more male perspective, but I’d still appreciate any genuine input from subs if you think it’s worth it! Apologies if anything I wrote comes off as arrogant or anything, I want to learn but I don’t want to cross any boundaries as well. If I did please let me know! Thanks for reading :)