hello! i have seen this discussion come up quite a few times, and i figured it would be nice to hear some new perspectives from people about this! a few days ago, i started using dating apps like bumble, hinge and feeld, which is something i’ve never done before. i’m a younger sub guy, for the record.

i think i have an okay profile on each one, but i very openly advertise what i’m looking for: a long-term, female-led relationship. i don’t outright say femdom, but it’s implied.

dommes, what do you actually prefer? do you like upfront honesty like that, or does it make some of us out to be too focused on sex? i know you’re not a monolithic group that all think the same, but it’s still nice to hear opinions!

subs, what has worked for you? what has been your experience with either being subtle and using hints or being forthcoming out of the gate?

this is something that’s quite important to me, and i really wanna get it out of the way and be direct; at the same time, i don’t wanna be too direct and seen as only caring about sex or just looking for fun. i want something more genuine than that.

just lookin’ for everyone’s thoughts, thanks!

EDIT: it took me approximately two days before i got a match and date. i think it will go well, but that doesn’t matter. what matters is that there are women out there that are into this. boys, women: be yourself, act like a normal person, be upfront, and you will find someone. wish you luck and thanks a lot.