I've been actively looking for my special sub both locally and on reddit for the past few months.

While fine tuning my vetting process I discovered a simple question that is an amazing way to figure out whether someone is genuinely interested in you. After chatting for a while, disclosing some factual info about myself, and asking the other person questions about their life, I ask:

Do you have any burning questions for me?

If a potential sub is interested, they would usually bombard me with a bunch of questions about my life (even some cute trivial ones like "when is your birthday?") But truly ask interesting and engaging questions.

However, if they DGAF, they would either find an excuse not to ask questions (e.g. "I'm so worried about prying" while constantly just talking about themselves only) or literally repeat the same question I asked them previously, or ask the most boring mind numbing questions ever (e.g. whats your favourite movie?). Yes I understand it's a good ice breaker but not when we've already discussed many things and you could be following up with a million questions.

And I'm not just expecting to be interviewed. If I'm talking to a person, I'm genuinely interested in them and try to come up with well thought out questions because I actually want to get to know the person.

But it's absolutely hilarious when I ask someone a question and they just respond and that's it. That's not how conversations work bruv. It seems that some people don't have basic social skills to engage in a conversation and yet expect to be in a full blown bdsm dynamic. Like wtf lmao

Anyway hope this helps fellow Dommes so just wanted to share this.