Ok I might get lots of backlash for saying this but these are some of my observations so far:

• Subs expecting a response AND an apology for not being interested. Like wtf 😁

• Dommes demanding submission right off the bat (according to what has been said to me)

• Subs immediately demanding to be monogamous and exclusive. I'm actually monogamous but expecting me to immediately give all of my attention to you is a big no.

• Dommes expecting monetary rewards, even though being a provider is what I consider to be dominant (I know this is subjective).

• Subs demanding attention when it is convenient for them and not taking into account a Domme's schedule. This has been the biggest issue for me as I felt as if they expected me to modify my schedule based on their preferences.

• Dommes treating Femdom as a casual thing yet expecting subs to treat them seriously. Ofc not everyone wants to be romantically involved with their kink partner, but I truly believe that BDSM should not be treated lightly for lots of different reasons.

• Subs putting Dommes on a pedestal and worshipping them but at the same time dehumanizing them, ironically. Dommes are still human beings with feelings and subs tend to forget that.

• (Some) Dommes still subscribe to the idea of what a "real man" is, almost saying as if subs are not real men. Although it might just be someone's kink so I'm kinda murky about this one 😁

I contrasted Dommes with subs not to pit people against each other but to paint a more well rounded picture. Just sharing my 2 cents.