Hello,

This question is more for the dommes but I’ll take any help I can get . I’m thinking of posting another personal but the last time I did i definitely got overwhelmed and the subs I did get to know didn’t end to well (I stopped looking online for a while because it was that bad).

I always put a note that I’m looking for a serious sub and I’m monogamous. I even go through a period of trying to weed out the people that want a kink dispenser where we don’t do any immediate play for weeks. Like I put in genuine effort getting to know them. I don’t request photos immediately and even let them pick an Alias in case it doesn’t work out. I usually also weed out the low effort messages and generally discuss limits to see if our kinks align but it doesn’t seem to workout. I end up super drained for putting in effort and it’s disheartening.

I also know that ghosting is frequent and unfortunately something we experience a lot. I’ve also caught potential subs still fishing for other dommes which really hurt me before. Is there like crucial tips I may be missing when looking for a steady sub?

Sorry if this ended as a rant but I’m just trying to do the right thing on my end as a domme while also keeping myself protected.